Domestic Violence Message Board

I have done more than one person should to be an awesome wife and change things about myself my husband put me down for like being a bartender because I thought his respect was something I could earn I have never disrespected or gone outside of my marriage and I am ashamed to say that from the very beginning even when we were dating he did very disrespectful things but he would apologized and I would want to believe him so I did. Fast forward almost 10 years we have been married 2 years when I met him he was a forklift driver for Costco in firefighter School I have nursed him through surgeries move to the other coast left everyone I know and loved so that he could start his career and that is when it all started.

tonight he got in my face told me he was going to put a gun to my head and pull the trigger and because he was so close to my face and he has hit me before I lifted my arm up too kind of cover my face and accidentally touched his chin a little wasn’t a hit nothing like that from there he proceeded to choke me so hard that I practically had to gouge his eyes to out to breathe. I am not worried about proving that he choked me because not only do I have the marks on my neck I have petechiae in my eyes which only comes from strangulation and lack of oxygen the thing is he is a firefighter thanks to the support he pretends like he never got from me and he tells me that he will get away with it because he knows all the police officers and I will be the one who ends up in jail I want to go get a protection order and have him removed from this house when it is he said she said and he has marks on him from me trying to get away from him are the police smart enough to see what those marks are and how they would happen or am I going to end up in jail for being stupid enough to marry a piece of crap who would rather hurt me then make me smile. I am divorcing him that is what the fight was about me getting half of the house. At this point I don’t care anymore and will never love him again but I have never been in trouble in my life and do not want to jeopardize my future because he destroyed any future he got to have with me. He is a very cruel very mean very vindictive person who would have no problem lying for his own benefit I honestly believe he is a sociopath is definitely bipolar. I just need some advice on how to go about staying safe in this house why my lawyer gets me half of it and half of his pension to.

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When my husband was recovering from a tree stand injury he told how he was remembering things that happened long ago that I needed to know what the truth really was, that what I thought was not what really happened, so he tells me this BRAND NEW version that is horrific, saddistic, sexually violent, and with no emotion or second thought he insisted that I agree with his new memory that totally 100% cleared his own guilt and victimnized in a very scary scenario told that I am this secret sexual deviant that asks for and forced him to use physical violence, he has maintained this version and even after telling this to his coworkers, bosses, and those who were somewhat aware of the actual event thats over 15 years old, they all said NO and they would definitely not forget IF he had told them that version back then

So I’m wondering where, who, how, or what would this possibly even come from? Who would think things up like that to begin with? The worse part is since that time he suddenly changed drastically toward me, and he has been calling me horrible names, he shows out by abusing me outside so others see how he is punishing me for being whatever he decides that day, liar, stupid, crazy, gold digger, lazy, disgusted and tired of supporting me and my family (untrue) every word of it, he shows off and complains about me and hes been doing the complaining since day one! Hes saying other nasty degrading dehumanizing things about me that are evil. Then he shows up with new friends much younger and the girl is all over him in our house, making me cook and clean,

So is there a connection? Who is doing this to our family? What is the best thing for dealing with this? I’m still in shock daily, and there is much much more……..

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My husband has locked me out of the house more than once and turn off all the lights. Is this considered abuse? 

My boyfriend tortured me for months with not allowing me to sleep. Then he manipulated me into using meth to get to work because he said it would help me feel better after an injury. I tried turning it down over and over again, but he pretty much made me do it. Now I am addicted to the drug and afraid that if I go to rehab he will hurt my 19 year old daughter. He took my car apart yesterday which is mother’s day. He has threatened my life on multiple occasions and he even kicked me in the ribs. My family and friends have abandoned me because he’s so terrible. I moved an hour away from my old home because he said he had a job. He never helped with any bills and has prevented me fr 

He made sure I did not have a car to drive for over a year now. I’m really scared of filing a restraining order because he threatened to “bury me 6ft under the ground” if I did. 

Hi I have been married for 20 years, we have a 16 year old daughter, a 9 year old son & I am currently 8 months pregnant. My husband and I have always had a bad relationship and he has always gaslighted me and been emotionally abusive to me. About 10 years ago he started being physically abusive also. Things like slapping me, grabbing me by my throat, spitting on me & dragging me by my hair. He has done these things in front my kids numerous times, but its the worst when no one is around. Most everytime he is angry he kicks me out of the house. This has been going on since the beginning of our relationship. 

 I have tried to leave him several times over the last 10 years but I have failed to make it on my own everytime. He would never let me take the kids though & I would miss them too bad. He is always reminding me that they will always choose him over me. I love them so much.

 Everyday since then he spits on me, calls his unborn baby names, threatens me, calls me fat & stupid & last week he blacked my eye during a physical altercation that started because he tried to take my phone & keys out of my hand. This is the second time he has physically hurt me since I’ve been pregnant the first time he choked me. I have called the police to have him removed from the apartment we live in (his name only on the lease) & they said there was nothing they could do.

 If I retaliate it becomes a huge fight in front of my kids & they end up mad at me over it. I don’t know what to do. Please help

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I was a resident in a shelter for victims of violence I was involuntarily admitted to the hospital for a mental health eval this past Friday oh I returned today and I wasn’t able to get in and then when I called they said they were kicking me out and I asked for my personal property including my dog and they told me it wasn’t a good time the dog is my therapy dog the police aren’t helping what do I do.  

There’s a reoccurring problem at the shelter they like to force people out in the last month and a half there have been out and other people willing to choosing to leave because of unsafe unfit her on ethical practices. It’s not a safe place is actually causing a lot more trauma and it’s not right. 

I have a toxic family and would appreciate not having to constantly feel weak at my parents words. Emotional abuse. Nothing physical. My whole life emotional abuse. 

I’m 21 now and I’m mentally exhausted. 

What can I do with the Washington County police didn’t help my daughter and grandbaby with the man that beat her? 

I called the cops after hearing the boyfriend beat my daughter? With the baby in the home. The boyfriends mother did the same thing to and didn’t help her. I was in a decent relationship for 20 years. I’m at a loss that they did put the abuser im jail!! She’s tried to leave he don’t allow it. The police have been a few times. I don’t care how many times. U never ever leave a child and and mother in the home with a abuser!! If they was to lazy to do the paper work they don’t need to cops. 

My question is how long do I stay? 
 
Why does she treat me like this? 

Back-round time; 
My Fiancé and I have been together for 15 months, at the beginning her life was a mess, and mine was not in much better shape if not worse. Both of us have very different kind of issues. They have been caught talking to old flame of which has an active order of protection against them. Truthfully, I did take it upon myself to look though the phone. Invading privacy sure, but I feel that once we have been sexual privacy kinda becomes shared. I am very open with my phone and anyone I chat with even in passing. Upon asking her about it she turns the blame and makes me feel at fault. 
 
we fight about a few things here and there, I am not the greatest at sticking to my word from time to time, I feel like I don’t want to upset people by sticking to my guns so I tend to lean on just agreeing that I’m the bad person. I know I could be better and I actively try to correct my faults before they happen and then when they happen trying to learn. 
Cut to recently she has been talking to some guy on snap for a month and is still calling victim. Guy lives in Florida so even if it is cheating, I love this girl and want to figure it out. 
she has hit me a few times, threaten to kill me or herself.

My husband and I have been together for just over 3 years we have two kids together (our oldest, 2, was born out of wedlock). The abuse at first was very minuscule seeing as we live with his parents for the first 2 years of us being together. At first it was just manipulation, he would manipulate the circumstance to best suit himself even if that meant contradicting himself. And if I called him out on it he would just say that I was crazy and that he never said that. For the longest time I couldn’t see what he was doing. He was slowly building thing up to the point where I started questioning my own sanity. Even simple things like events that never took place or even whole conversations that happened, he would try to convince me they hadn’t. At the time I was very heavily influenced by the way that I was raised. That being that the woman is to submit to the man and the man is in charge of everything and anything and everything the man wanted, he was supposed to get. Whether I wanted that or whether it was wrong or not. That leaves a lot of lead way for the man to do whatever the fuck he wants. He then started to use that against me whenever he wanted sex but I didn’t. This happened quite a lot. He frequently tried to make me feel bad and guilty when I said I didn’t want to. He would tell me that it’s my responsibility as a wife to give him what he wants. Because I had given my body to him and that I belonged to him so if he wanted sex then he should have it. He would make me feel so guilty and bad half the time that I complied. And when I didn’t comply he would blame me for his actions.

About two weeks ago now, we got into an argument about the house is never cleaned and that I’m lazy and a fucking slob and how nothing ever stay cleaned (we have two children age 2 and 7 months in a tiny house. No shit) and how I don’t do my job (btw I’m a stay at home mom). He told me me everything better be cleaned by the time he got home or else. I said, or else what? He said or else I’m going to tie you up and take you to Alabama where I can beat your ass (we live in Florida). I was in total disbelief and didn’t really know what to say. I wouldn’t put it passed him at this point. I try to act as if what he said hadn’t shaken me and tell him he will do no such thing. He then goes into our bedroom and proceeds to take our laundry basket full of clean, folded clothes, and starts throwing them all over the room, he knocks down a couple of things that are on the dresser while he’s throwing clothes everywhere and then throws the basket on the floor. He walks out and tells me I better have this shit cleaned up before he gets back home. I broke down in tears after he left.

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I was abused by narcissist who has had me falsely arrested for DUI because I tried to kill myself the morning before on a Saturday that’s Sunday evening I finally I was fed up and tried to escape. It was really bad weather and I flipped my car because I overcorrected when I hit a puddle. I’ve dealt with this man’s abuse emotional and intimidating me by hitting walls next to my head. I’ve been falsely arrested and now come to find out I probably will violate my probation because he canceled my SR-22 without my consent and I am being treated like crap I’ve had to pay the ultimate price for being emotionally abused and intimidated and treated like crap I have lost everything thrown out on the streets being disabled the cops told me to leave and go to a shelter.

 I think that narcissistic abuse since it’s one of the worst types should be considered domestic violence but every time I call the domestic violence hotline they tell me there is nothing they can do for me because I was not hit or physically abused. What is wrong with the situation I know how both feels and like I said I’d rather be physically abused than what I have just went through and I have to pay the ultimate price for being abused and cannot get help being the fact that I was disabled and abandoned. This is a messed up situation and I believe something needs to be done about it because people like me are just left to deal with it and put in jail for nothing like we’re not already traumatized enough

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How can I get help I just called the police on my husband but they didn’t do anything 

Please help me 

Does your company help someone who is going through an emotional abuse?, where there is a woman who live with a family, & she is mm of blood related but is used for money the family is being control by her bank no rest hardly. She has a pacemaker & is really trying to avoid stress from struggling to survive. Emotionally she is filled with a lot of anger & sometimes harm herself to feel good. Do you help women like that? 

She use to live in her car for 8 yes & is deciding to go back & live in her car just to have peace again. She is going through an emotional stress thats gone to harm herself or others 

I am in the middle of a court battle with my ex girlfriend. We ended up becoming mutually toxic and abusive to each other. I ended up with pending charges. This is going to sound surprising, but I genuinely want to be able to support victims of domestic violence (which psychological abuse has a long term negative effect on your brains functioning) but that’s not an easy case to prove. 
Anyways! I was wondering if you could provide me with some tips on how to support and volunteer for causes like these with a pending record. I am having so much trouble finding jobs and now I found a passion for helping kids like i was who suffer from long term ACE. 
If you have any advice on how I can still support my community, please respond! 
P.s. soory I didnt know how to email you directly. 

My circumstances seem highly questionable but I am finally ready to become a better person than I was before. I had a weak value system and didn’t stand up for my boundaries when I needed myself the most. I refuse to let my past traumas continue to hinder my future. And I know my purpose is to help young adults or kids prevent themselves from walking down the same path I had to in order to find my purpose. To help those who have no voice, learn that they do matter and their voice was made to be heard. Proud Supporter of ACE programs. 

If I hit my girlfriend and no cops were called and then a few days later she spit in my kid’s face and then the cops were called would I still get in trouble still I think yes someone else said no 

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I am a victim of domestic violence and unlike many before me I am a survivor. Back in October 2020 I was physically assualted by my boyfriend and I finally told him that I couldn’t take it anymore. I said look these bruises all over me are from your hands. I asked him to please get help with his drug abuse which fueled his abusive behavior towards me. He says to me so what are you saying that I abused you. Then he said I will never stop using marijuana and if you don’t like it then get the f out of my house. This was the home I’d lived in and took care of him and everything in the house for almost 4 years. Two days later he served me eviction notice and told me I had 7 days to get out. 90% of everything in the house belonged to me. I responded to the notice in time just asking for a reasonable amount of time for me to find a job and a safe place to go being I have no family to help. Once he realized he couldn’t just toss me out in a week he began his mission to destroy my life. He just served eviction but now he forbid anyone from coming on his property to help me pack and get out. For the next month I endured his abuse emotionally, physically and was sexually assualted. I made a appointment to meet with the judge to file a TPO on him but he managed to get me served first literally 24 hours before I had someone coming with a moving truck and my neighbor had rented a storage unit. My world was turned upside down as I now became homeless and broke. I had to seek shelter in a Domestic Violence Shelter that my own mother founded. [Shortened for length]

This has been the biggest battle and fight of my life. Please help before I become a Casualty of Clayton county Ga Courts. I might die trying but I will not remain silent anymore and MY VOICE WILL BE HEARD. [Name redacted for privacy]

what can i do i was assualted with a baseball bat by my next door down neighbor fractured t11,broken right hand ,concussion,and right eye was gouged pretty bad, i just was told that the prosecuting attorney is not going to press charges . I had a friend who saw the whole assualt begining to end vwhat can i do im fricken furious 

he had a loaded AR- 15 and a glock loaded with safetys off laying on his couch 

Hi. I am a landlord. I warned the tenants if I hear any more domestic violence I will boot them both out. 

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I warned the tenants if I hear any more domestic violence I will boot them both out. I do not mean to be callous, i was assaulted over 50 times, and now that I have been reading about domestic violence, its upset me, because I realized I have had domestic violence. I never even condidered it even when my lover said he kill me and held a gun on me, and all the men who verbally abused me. So wake up call. The violence I hear is shouting really loud, enought for it to travel to my home and wake me up at 2 am. Cursing, smashing the door shut. She turns out to be a piece of work herself, a grifter I just found out, conned her way into my rental with the Fires in california, but turns out she did not lose her house and is scamming FEMA, gofundme, so not a nice couple and it triggers me horribly. I gave them a 2700 off a month to help them thinking they had lost everything, but now I see they played me as a fool. They were opportunists. I am scared of the man. I am small a elder and bed ridden, so I feel in danger. Thank you for this site. 

 I left an abusive relationship over 20 years ago after careful planning. I have gone to therapy for the resulting PTSD. My abuser died 9 years ago, I still hate him. How can I get over it? I know we are supposed to “forgive” people, but, I don’t know how to do that. In fact, I want to go spit (or worse) on his grave, and I think I would if I wasn’t 1800 miles away. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you. 

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I consider the abuse I suffered as domestive violence, although it was not physical, it was emotional, psychological, verbal, controlling, demeaning. It was awful. 

If my ex claimed when he hit me it was an accident and he claims it wasnt out of anger bc he wasnt yelling and i reported it would they believe him? 

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We are going through custody case bc i wanted to move out and make my own money. I recorded him secretly for my lawyer as evidence im not the person he told judge i was…he hit me one month later and i got it on video and audio. Lawyer said if i cant prove it to be anything but accident ill lose my kids its been almost a year and i havent reported it and just moved out w our kids in sept 2020 but im still scared of him 

My fiance gets mad at things and they can be minor things like a fire alarm beeping or a sink that leaks . when this occurs he yells F%$&! God , I hate my life , he pounds his fist or he throws bottles or objects . he slapped me and pushed me a long time ago . when he starts yelling I can feel my anxiety going up a lot . the other day he was mad at his 7 son and he started kicking him . is this normal ? 

Additional comments: He does this a lot , has pushed me before and slapped me a year ago for no reason . he drives the car super fast when he is mad or throws the Christmas tree on the ground . 

I’m a bit lost and I find myself hurt, terrified, and confused. My wife spent nearl 17 years Finacially abusing me and has spent the last 14 months making me sleep on a floor while verbally and emotionally abusing me. She wants to randomly move on now but I’m making things worse because I cannot stope talking about my feelings, begging, annoying her with very serious matters. I’m not aloud to talk about the past and I’m expected not to talk to here because all I do is complain. I feel broken and I know I do not deserve all of this to include constant public humiliation. She has already longed threatened to take everything from me and kick me out on the street. She has made up lie after lie to deface my nam, take all of my money call it the family’s money while she took money from our account and has her own. 

I am so depressed and lonely I have never felt nor expected this I just can’t take it anymore. I ask for counseling she says he’ll no. I explain why she replies she doesn’t care and I am sick to my stomach when she uses our children as weapons against me one minute then acts like nothing happened the next. I am scared and need help. I do not know what to do  

I can’t talk to my family or friends about this because they will most definitely hurt him. So here it goes. 
I’ve been with my now fiancé for 7 and a half years. I suffer from EXTREME social anxiety and depression, as well as diagnosed PTSD. He knows this and he is very supportive of me. Until he drinks. My fiancé is an alcoholic and sometimes his drinking turns to anger and that anger is taken out on me. 3 years ago he put a cigarette out on my stomach and tried to choke me, held my nose and mouth shut while he pinned me down, and gave me a black eye. I forgave him. 2 years ago he got very drunk while driving so I told him I wanted to get out, i would call someone to give me a ride home. He took that as me going to cheat on him. He sped up, ran red lights, ran stop signs, cut people off, we almost wrecked more times than I can count. he locked my door and held my arm so tight to where I had bruises. I managed to dial 911 with my free hand without him knowing. I didnt say anything on the phone directly, I held it by the seat and kept mentioning where we were, hoping the police could get the hint. Luckily, they did.

he uses my past trauma against me and has even told me I deserved it. Just last night he called me a “stupid fucking piece of shit bitch” (slurred of course) because I asked him if he would slow down drinking. It led to an argument that lasted for 3 hours. I talked calmly and never raised my voice, I cried and begged him to stop but it only made him more angry. its like he was looking for a reason to be mad at me. and it made it worse when he couldn’t find a reason. this morning he woke up and acted like nothing happened. and I forgave him.

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My husband of three months has threatened to move out with his 20 year old son because I “bitch” all the time about his son living at our house for free and smoking weed all day. He puts his son first because he feels guilty about his divorce. But why is he not putting me first? 

Please help me. Does this mean he really does not love me anymore? 

I’m in a really emotionally abusive relationship. I want to get away but every time I try he threatens to get involved in my custody case with my exhusband. He’s Jewish and I recently told him I’m getting my faith back in Christ and he told me I was mentally sick and going to tell people that I’m on drugs and my kids are in danger. I have court in 5 months for my custody case. I broke up with him before 4 months ago and in the time we were broken up he contacted someone my exhusband new and said he had concerns over my drinking and parenting with the kids to try and hurt me. I got back with him before I found this out. He recently texted all the threats about him needing to “protect” my kids again from me. When I told him that is extremely wrong and he would be hurting my kids he said, “the world is a scary place” I think he had a low IQ and is extremely selfish. I don’t know what to do. My temporary hearing for my boys is next Wednesday with the permanent hearing 5 months after that

How do so get away from this man without him endangering me winning this case and protecting my children? My exhusband is not a present father. They cry every time I drop them off at his house because only the nanny is there.

Is it possible to fix a really bad domestic violence situation between a man and women’s relationship.i truthfully am not sure what level the situation im in might b concidered. Is it posdoble to have emotional and mental breakdown and not really b aware have and caused by abuse.. if all kinds n severe injuries inflicted? Thank you 

Im not sure as far as arxuak abuse goes. Not educated enough toknow. Im thinking probably sexuality abused in domestic situation too. But not sure. Ty 

What should I do? I’m home recovering from Emergency Open Heart Surgery. I’m a Senior male and my older brother that lives with me) He physically attacked me this afternoon about 1:00Pm in a rage of anger. I suffered a bloody ear (expected I’m on blood thinners) and couple three facial scratches, some bruising. He didn’t hit me but had his hands about my head and ears jerking my head around while I was on the steps. Since I’m recovering from two surgeries the open heart and one surgery from last weekend it’s been a rough time here. (I will try to hide this event today from my wife). Tonight I feel some chest pain, it’s mild but is noticeable. I’m wishing tonight I had died during the surgery this so ridiculous. 

I know he’s worried about the outcome of the election he watches it daily, he’s worried about his Soc Sec and the democrats are going to steal it. He’s worried about the stock market and the economy and he’s aggravated about the whole pandemic scene what the new restrictions are bringing. I will NOT report this, I don’t want him in trouble for anything. I don’t even charge him for living here but he does buy his own food and personal needs. He told me during the verbal argument, Quote: “You are not the same person anymore, I don’t know who the “hell” you are anymore!” “But since your surgery this all has been building up!”

I don’t want a reply of: “You don’t deserve that”, “You shouldn’t be treated like that”, or”You should leave” etc. All of the obvious things you’d hear upon telling someone what’s going on or what’s previously happened. I am in a marriage in which i am infrequently (once every 6-8 months) physically taunted/abused whatever you’d like to call it. My husband does not control or restrict my daily schedule or who i see, I have unlimited access to all of our money, I could go back to work if I wanted to but don’t have to work. He makes me a snack at 11pm at night after working hard all day, he’s a great & patient father to our children, he stands up for me, if i ask him to do something/anything he does it. However, he infrequently becomes very scary and has hit me, spit on me, spanked me, smacked me… sacred the living shit out of me. I have ran from him. I do not fight back or it will get worse. etc. He has put me down emotionally (obviously)

I guess my question is…. How do I move forward to a positive manner trying to salvage my emotions because I do want to stay married? How to do navigate through the trauma’s so i can enjoy life?

6 years ago I moved my boyfriend onto my boat. He had the engine hatches open saying he was working on something. since he was sitting on the couch and doing nothing I tried to close the hatch and he yelled at me and told me to leave it that he would do it. I said okay and went out for a few hours. When I came back I random stairs fell into the enclosed hatch and ruined my life. I went to the gym twice a day and had a job. Now I can barely make it to the bathroom. He still lives here and daily he calls me a stupid effing seaward every time I ask him for a glass of water. The hot water heater went out 5 years ago and he has left me laying here filthy and dirty and unable to take a shower. I don’t know what to do. 

He has never hit me, yet. But last night he got half an inch from my face with his fist balled up because I asked him not to walk my dog after he drank a pint of 100 proof schnapps. I’m terrified.  

Hi. I stupidly signed a lease with a new boyfriend. I paid for move in costs, deposit and I even had to pay his past due electric bill in order to get my service transferred to the new place because he was on the lease. (I lived alone prior). After the 1st week of us living together he would pick arguments with me and he even threw a tv remote at me which hit me on the eyebrow and cut it open. 3 weeks after living together, he was in another bad mood. He didn’t want to go out to dinner so I went alone. When I got back home, he started throwing things at me. Change that was on the counter, a lighter that struck my face under my eye and something bigger and heavier that I blocked with my hand. I was yelling at him to stop. And to leave! He called the cops and I went to jail.

 It took 18 months for my attorney to get this to a simple assault (which reads as didn’t touch anyone but someone felt threatened). I stand by my innocence

It has been over 3 years. This guy for this entire time sends me text messages. Love notes. I miss u. I love u. I have blocked him on social media, email and even his phone number but he got a new number. This guy owes me so much money even prior to this going down. 
What is your advise? My attorney said if he isn’t sending threatening texts there is nothing I can do about it 

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What should I do ? What can I do? 
 
My live in boyfriend has started becoming more and more physically aggressive towards me … again. 
 
A year ago, he beat me up and crashed the car we were driving into a tree, ending our relationship and sending him to jail for 6 months. 
 
After getting released he came to find me , apologized, and I didn’t take him back at first, but after a lot of talking , I decided I loved him , maybe it was the drugs, etc ect lots of factors right , 
 
Fast forward to now a year later , and he’s begun displaying violent actions toward me, and I don’t know what to do. I could call the police, and put him in jail for another 3 years but , I REALLY don’t want to do that. The first time was hard enough. 
 
But now, I don’t know what to do. Everytime I try to break up with him, we end up back together. My suspicion is that he doesn’t want to leave because he doesn’t have anywhere other than his parents house to go, so he’s trying to make the relationship work until he can figure something out and then leave me.

I know the answer is leave him. But what if.. he won’t leave ! Now what ! And more importantly. What do I do? I feel lost and alone. And defenseless. And alone. 
 
I also fear that if we do break up he’s just going to tell everyone that I’m a b*tch or a liar and make up a bunch of stuff to everyone to discredit me because he says I ruined his life by sending him to jail that first time . 
Ah. 
Sorry if it’s too long. I just .. yeah. Thanks for anyone who response

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How can I unravel 5 years of mental and physical abuse from my narcissistic sons father so I can be okay mentally 

Is bum rushing me and then chest bumping me an example of physical assault? I have dealt with years of mental abuse, but not he is escalating to this. He is in federal law enforcement, so he is well known in this tactic. Can I charge him with this? 

Can I accuse him of it a while after it happened if it is assault? I was not aware that that is abuse.  

My huaband often discredits me to other people as “a joke”. He told me today about doing it again today. i called him on his ass for it this time. here’s the scenario: 
Yesterday, I had an eye exam. I have not bought new eyeglasses (I need them to actually see) for about 5 years. It was time. So in picking out frames, I saw an attractive comfortable inexpensive frame. And i like how it looked on me. My husband saw one that he also liked. It was designer and yes, I like them as well but I didn’t want to pay the designer price in the frame since I usually sink the majority of my eyeglass expense on the lens. (i also wear contact lenses but I’m in a quest to drastically reduce that usage) 
My husband persuaded me to purchase the designer frame (I really did like them) and he paid for it (we both work, are both good with our money and financially able to make these kinds of purchases). 
 
Well, he called me from a break at his job today to tell me he was telling two female coworkers how I made him spend $1000 on a designer frame (it was actually hundreds and hundreds less than that and I mean HUNDREDS LESS + I got a 40%, discount).

I never even intended to talk about an eyeglass purchase to ANYONE, let alone MY coworker. And if i ever mention my husband AT ALL, i always mention him in a good light. But lateley he’s taken to discrediting me. So now, if i ever meet these two coworkers for whatever reason, they already have a bad image if me and an image of him as the suffering husband.. i swear to God that is enough to make me divorce him. am i making too much of it? i just think that’s a slippery slope 

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I’m not sure if I’m in an verbally, emotionally or abusive relationship. Could you help me figure that and maybe what I should do? 

My boyfriend of 6 years gets really upset anytime there is a slight inconvenience. We could have the smallest argument and it’s all my fault. Yesterday he was yelling in my face, spit at me, threw my stuff out the window, shoved me. He’s never physically hit me but he pretends like he’s going to. He says I make him so mad and that he just needs to stop caring and worry about what I’m doing to not make him upset. I always try asking what’s wrong but he never talks so I eventually stop asking and when I stay quiet it makes things worse. 

Is my husband abusive? 

When he gets mad, everything is my fault. If I disagree or tell him he’s wrong about anything, I’m being a b*tch or pushing his buttons. Last time we fought he told me I was gonna push him and make him do something to me he couldn’t take back. 
Then when I said he was suggesting that he was going to beat me or hurt me, he said that I was making sh*t up he never said that or insinuated that. 

My verbally and emotionally abusive ex boyfriend of 6 years called me earlier this month to tell me that he was getting married. We split in June, he got with his girl in August, now in October he tells me they’re getting married. He told me that it could have been us getting married, it could have been me with a ring on my finger. He constantly berates me for not moving on, he talks poorly about the new partner I’m with and tried fighting him when he tried to get my things back for me because I didn’t want to see him. He and his girlfriend would talk horribly to me and about me as well as my partner, and now they want to be friends with me. I don’t understand and I feel like I am going crazy. 
 

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Is this the end 

How do I leave my husband who abuses me in every way possible to make me feel like nothing when he has custody of our daughter and has drug problems h he has drug me through the mud and ruined my life and reputation and still has a hold on me now I can’t leave because I am afraid he will abuse my child and would become homeless again how would that help me out there is no way out 

For months i feel that I’ve been mentally abused by my current partner and I can’t leave eith fear of her doing something bad to me. 

We have been together for nearly 3 years but in the past year she has become very controlling asking where I’m going and what I’m doing. Even if I tell her where I’m going and what I’m doing she doesn’t believe it and gets angry to.the point I’m to scared to leave the house just in case she will do something bad. 

She seems to take advantage of me when I’m at my most vulnerable such as return from work after a long day, coming back from visiting friends or even after drinking a beer with my friends….this she chooses this time to try a provoke an arguement with me. 

I don’t know what to do because it feels like when there is an arguement I’m always the one to be blamed by her and made to feel like it’s all my fault everytime and i have to accept all responsibility for the way that she feels. 

Please! Any advice 

I am in an abusive marriage with 2 kids the abuse is getting worse,itbis verbal with threats to shoot me and kick me out of house,take my 2 boys,I work,pay all bills most of rent,but he is an MFT, inappropriate, abuses me verbally while on phone with clients,sells prescription bdrugs out of our home,gets his mom ex drug addict to help him abuse me and kids,carries a gun on him at all times ,has at least 2; others in house, threatens me day and night,degrades me in public, in front of kids,yells me I won’t be believed and tells me to get out, you ain’t taking my boys and he has filed several.lawsuits and won,he has over 65,000 in bank ,makes me spend my whole check everyonth 

The police have been called twice ,the do nothing and I am afraid my kids will be taken while I am trying to save them,he beats the dog,he beats the kids, he teaches them to fight each other, his mom helps, 

After 12 years with my girlfriend and two children we have together ive been arrested for domestic. For three years I have been attacked physically by her and would leave/ run to avoid altercation, it has been getting progressively worse and even in front of our sons. We broke up but she has it in her head were still together, refuses to leave our home and still wants to fight so I moved out

. She has stopped letting me see our sons. 

After trying to visit my sons and regain balance in my life an argument via phone took place about a babysitter at our once shared home to watch children who have a father. I expressed my hurt and emotion and went to leave, while leaving my house on bike she caught up in a car and hit me, as I was getting up she proceeded to attack me so I defended myself without unnecessary force. The police were called and she said I was the aggressor with false claims resulting in my arrest. I have pending charges and understand if your unable to speak on it but she has since spread rumors to friends and family stating I’m lost to drugs and had an affair with a drug addict resulting with me cutting ties with them, dhs and cps contacted her regarding the d.v to explain the victim’s role and to check the well being of our sons,

My question is pending trial and dismissal of my pending charges am I obligated or subject to abide by and defend myself against said allegations? 

And can an ex g/f who is involved with cps make claims true or false of child endangerment/ neglect on my new g/f in lieu of her children? 

4 children run the risk of being taken and put in the system as well as criminal charges and jail for party’s involved please take this into consideration, I hope to hear back from you and thank you for your time. 

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My ex wife is trying to kill me & police won’t do anything about it. I cannot afford a lawyer to take her to court. 

She has falsely accused me of indescent exposure to my child and said that I sexually molested her, they have done multiple exams on her and nothing was found. 

After months of her making accusations about things the judge and my probation officer now know she falsely accused me of the charges against me. Later today my niece had found a post on Facebook of her trying to sell my property, there was a post from a man who is in law inforcment asking if there property was big enough to dig holes undetected and my ex wife replied “ to dig many holes, dig one big enough and I’ll throw in the body” this guy had also said that he was going to take me to the canyon up the mountain and shoot me. I have brought this to the attention of police and they all says they couldn’t help me and that it was a civil dispute any tips

I’m confused with my relationship and I don’t know whether I should stay in it, find help for me and my partner or leave it. In the beginning of our relationship, he wouldn’t hit me physically, but he’d find a way to harm using objects and try to play it “cool” in other words, try to convince me that I was crazy or that I hurt myself and I couldn’t ever explain to myself how I would get pain in my body. My body doesn’t usually bruise up quickly as others ,but that doesn’t mean I am not tolerating any pain. To better understand this, I was in the front seat of his friends car, and he was in the back seat. We were angry at each other, so we weren’t communicating as much, he would conversate with his friend and then me and his friend would conversate. Within that moment, he used the little storage behind the central console, to hurt me. My hand was resting on it and he closed it while my hand was there and hurt me, I didn’t move at all thinking maybe he just pushed it down by accident, but he did it again 2 more times. I started screaming at him and he said ”oh I didn’t know there was something there” He would do other things such as that and it got worse to the point when I started responding back in such ways and eventually it became physical abuse. 

I am convinced at this moment that everything is my fault because i bitched slapped him and threw his phone across. But now, I’m thinking what the heck happened. I’m confused as to where if it was all my fault or if he had all right to hurt me back. 

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My fiancé emotionally abused me in the last month and then left and blocked me with no contact. I’m in depression, have had frequent anxiety attacks, went to mount Sinai too where I was injected to relax with my fiancé only and then he just vanished. 

Our culture is different and hence we weren’t sleeping/living together but he was staying at my place every other day. 

I finally have the courage to leave a verbally and emotionally abusive marriage. My husband is a narcissist and he has choked me out to the point that I had to go to the ER. Ive lost myself to this relationship mentally, emotionally and physically and now my health is being affected.We argue all the time and he’s told me to leave. And I also need to leave for my peace of mind. We discussed shared custody. Now that the time is approaching he’s acting irrationally and using our daughter to control me. I live in NY and can’t afford a place there so I intend to move to NJ. He said I can’t move anywhere that he can’t get to our daughter in 30 minutes. Can I get some advice on what my rights are and what he’s is. Also because I’m moving to another state can he say that I’m kidnapping our daughter. He said I’m 

Not going anywhere with her. 

He’s currently unemployed, I take care of 90% of the expenses so he’s losing that support and giving me a hard time. Help pleas 

My partner of almost 5 years and I got into a argument and she had left with almost all her belongings. She the comes back and gets her clothes and I asked about the hiegen products she had taken everything I asked her for my stuff back she said fine I’ll bring it back if she can. Then grabs the laundry soap and bleach and started to walk out I said no your not taking all that she said yes she is and I noticed that she had the mace I had bought her and I said no you can put some in a couple of empty water bottles

and leaves 20-30 minutes later to guys show up with a long heavy pipe and the other has a knife the one with the pipe crouches and started swinging hard for my legs and the one with the knife starts swinging yelling you hit her in the face not her face I’m like what the hell is going on backing up yell I didn’t hit her get the fuck out the one with the knife See’s the broken shovel handle I’m defenseless and then I see white for a minute I’m holding up my arms like a boxer trying to grab the things swung at me I see white again but I fall to the ground the guy with the pipe screams not her face this is for her and hits my left leg so hard my teeth hurt I know I’m done for my knee and leg or broken I can see it by the way my leg is laying the one with the knife pushed me back and said not the face and I keep thinking what the hell why do they keep saying that but that’s what I need advice on and how long do I have to fill charges 

Please help me yes I’m a man who is the abused ok help me 

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Been with an abusive man for 11 years now…we have 3 kids. I’ve been suicidal for a while but now I’m starting to feel like it’s my only way out. I’ve called the cops on him at least twice and they have never done anything about it. I have no family here, they are across the country. I’m too poor to take care of the kids on my own. I just feel I will never be happy again and I’m ready to end myself soon. 

 I finally have the courage to leave a verbally and emotionally abusive marriage. My husband is a narcissist and he has choked me out to the point that I had to go to the ER. Ive lost myself to this relationship mentally, emotionally and physically and now my health is beingaffected.We argue all the time and he’s told me to leave. And I also need to leave for my peace of mind. We discussed shared custody. Now that the time isapproaching he’s acting irrationally and using our daughter to control me. I live in NY and can’t afford a place there so I intend to move to NJ. He said I can’t move anywhere that he can’t get to our daughter in 30 minutes. Can I get some advice on what my rights are and what he’s is. Also because I’m moving to another state can he say that I’m kidnapping our daughter. He said I’m 

Not going anywhere with her. 

He’s currently unemployed, I take care of 90% of the expenses so he’s losing that support and giving me a hard time. Help pleas 

I can see it by the way my leg is laying the one with the knife pushed me back and said not the face and I keep thinking what the hell why do they keep saying that but that’s what I need advice on and how long do I have to fill charges 

Please help me yes I’m a man who is the abused ok help me 

My abusive NOW EX-BF refuses to let me move out of the apartment becAuse he quit his job (to no doubt run around with some chic,) and needs me to pay the rent. 

How do I get out? 

I’m not leaving him all of my stuff, no way. 

He has stolen $4,000 worth of music gear from me and now is just going to sit here and make me pay all the bills. 

What do I do? 

He sleeps on the couch every night and is only nice to me when he wants something. Other than that, I am a piece of shit. He is so mean. It’s almost like I feel like I’m being held hostage. 

I’m afraid to do anything in fear he’ll just literally beat the crap out of me. 

He holds onto the keys to the apartment like the place is his but yet he doesn’t pay any bills and the apartment isn’t even in his name. 

I’m literally just wanting to move my stuff, including the music gear he claims is hisbut I AM PAYING FOR. And then just leave but he’s not letting me. 

What do I do? Seriously. 

We do not live together, I asked her to engage me but now all she says is i am acting weird and that I’m cheating every day. She threatened to take a restraining order if I break up the engagement. Can I do something to protect myself before she does anything? 

I’m 26 but she just sees me as her source of “happiness and non bordem” 

I’m a man, my kids mom is physically and verbally abusive to me. She has threatened many times that if I try and take the kids, she will tell them that I am abusive. Small town will 

Most likely believe her. She also threatens to keep the kids from me. She’s technically primary, but I have them more. She also had a child after we split with someone else that is not in the picture. I am raising him like he’s mine. I don’t have any legal rights to him, so she would for sure be able to keep him from 

Me. What do I do? 

He slapped me in the face I fell to the ground. He kicked me between the legs. 4+X’s before that he punched holes in the wall, threw a glass on the floor, over turned furniture and called me demeaning names even the C word. His adolescent nephew was diagnosed with IED. I think he may have it as well or is it abuse ? It’s been a week and just now I’m feeling mad at myself for staying , scared and confused. He hit his X In the face 23 yrs ago. He says this is only the second time and he “says” it will never happen again. Do I leave him ? I’m in counseling and I told him we wanted to stay together , and he is going to counseling. I am so confused and sad. 

Will he do it again?? 

I’m 17 on October, close right? Well, my stepdad is mentally abusive to me and only me out of 3 girls. I have a friend with an apartment and want to move in and get away from my stepdad. Am I, a 17 yr old, allowed to make that decision on my own?  

I have a dad but don’t want to live with him right now. His place is too crowded. 

My fiancé loses his temper during arguments. It seems to be getting worse since we’ve had our child. He has thrown shoes at the back of my head, grabbed me by my throat and pinned me, threw our son’s rocker chair at my back, backed me into corners, slammed me into walls, left bruises, and called me awful names. I have been told I am nothing & I have started to believe it. He has told me that if I leave him I will have nobody. I didn’t realize I was being abused until recently, as I was severely depressed after the birth of my son and thought that it was something I was doing wrong. When we aren’t arguing we are happy, and I love having my family together, but I feel like I don’t know the severity of my situation because I haven’t told anyone that these things are happening to me. He would never hurt our son, he loves him more than anything, but I still feel like I need to protect him and leave.  

If i leave how do i know things won’t get worse? I’m worried what he could do. 

My boyfriend started hitting me a couple months ago, it started as a “joke” as he would put it, that he does with his friends. This was his way of justifying it, which made me feel like I should be okay with it. He has hit me multiple times, most slapping in the face or back of head. I would not consider this a playful action as it often hurts and/or leaves marks. I also would never as a joke actually hit someone/my friends so this seems weird to me. But i let it happen and I started/do believe it isn’t “abuse” because he was joking, am I fair to be hurt from this?  

This behaviour also started to take place during sex and would be his kink, but I have the same feelings towards it.  

He has cheated and lied to me multiple times and I feel so devasted and drained from this whole relationship. 

I have been with my boyfriend for a bit over a year now, and please don’t get me wrong I love him with everything and he is a great guy. His mother used to beat him, neglect him, threaten to kill him, etc so he does carry a lot of trauma. When we got a cat together, he swore she would be both of ours and we’d make the decisions together. Well then she started having a problem pooping outside of her box. I Everytime she does this He punishes her by “spanking” her which the more she does it the more it turns into literally beating the cat. It’s so scary when he does it. 

. But yesterday while I was driving he was yelling at me and saying how I ruined his life and he’s going to kill himself and I will have to tell his family it was my fault. He said he hates me and that we should just break up (which he says almost every fight.) but then as soon as these fights are over he is the sweetest most loving guy I’ve ever been with. He is good to me and generous and kind. He is always always looking out for me. But yesterday he hit me in the face with my notebook. It was the first time he’s done anything like that and I was very very upset. He apologized and told me he would never hurt me, And that we just need to drop things before it gets to that point. And he might be right. He is a wonderful person and has never done this to his past partners. And I know who I am I am aggravating and downright cruel sometimes. I don’t want to lose him but I don’t want to keep going on like this
 

My old boyfriend is in the military he tried harming himself a couple times the other day and in the process had pushed me and I had to explain that to the cops. The state pressed charges when I said I didn’t want to. He now might be getting dishonorable discharge. How can I prevent this? 

I specifically said he didn’t mean to and that it wasn’t assault, I was only worried about his safety for himself. I can’t afford a Lawyer and I’m not sure how to help him fight thisBut since he’s in the military and with everything that has transpired they are looking to send him to prison. 

My friend a stay at home mom with 3 young children resides in the state of Washington a no fault state was in an abusive relationship where her and her children was verbally, emotionally, and physically abused by an abusive husband. Husband didn’t earn much income to support the family but managed to control the community money. Her parent was affluent. They were kind enough to let them stay at one of their property rent free.  She filed a domestic violence restraining order when he got extremely violent towards her, accusing her having an affair. He threaten to kill her many times throughout the marriage if she cheats on him. He gets extremely jealous and controlling even when a male waiter smiles at her. Small things like that results in big arguments and the husband threaten to kill her if she ever cheated on him on the drive back home with their young children in the car. Make long story short after a long delay due to the pandemic they finally met in court. Despite all the evidence and testimony from the police officer called at the incident that leads to the restraining order, child protective service worker summoned by her husband, and the husband admits hitting the kids. The judge found no signs of sensitivity violence and dismissed the case. The husband and his lawyer assert a claim on her parent’s asset accusing her of hiding assets during the DV hearing. Me and other friends trying to tell her not to give up and try to settle with him. She is clearly dealing with a narcissist that is set to hurt and destroy her at all cost including sacrificing the well being of her children. Especially after gaining the upper hand beating the domestic violence case. What can she do at this point moving forward? How can she defend against frivolous claims he had against her mom’s LLC Just because she was the agent taking care of her family properties they own in America

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My ex husband keeps calling the police and child services on me for insignificant things. How can I stop this behavior?  

I know he can legally call whenever he wants, but I am a professional and I feel like he is trying to ruin my life. It involves different reasons, but mostly invokes my youngest son who is his dad. We have been divorced for a few years and I remarried. He recently called on my two sons fighting. In which the younger boy started. It’s ridiculous 

Please, i have no where to turn. My husband and i have 2 kids he’s hasn’t been acting himself he’s so hostile and volitile, he abuses me mentally and verbally andPhysically abuses me. theres holes all over this house i have no where to go my dad just died and g he ridiculed my father who just died in front of my kids who dearly loved yheir papa. I’m awreck. He’s also just obtained his contractors licence he has been screaming at me get out of his house i had to leave the house recently because he locked me out then told our smallest child 5 that i was dead and she’s never going to see me again. He’s awful to my 10 year old she’s not biologically his. He said he’s taking my kids because I’m nothing and he has s business i have nothing i asked him is he on steroids he says no, after leaving today i went searching and found all his drugs, needless ect. He needs help idk where to turn please. 

I went to my friends house i had to leave i took my kids but i have to go back their home schooled i have nothing. He says what’s wrong with losing some weight. He’s not normal i have to go back home 

1.Why do I keep on going back to my abuser after he has hit me? Am I scared of him or do I care for him?    

2.I told him I called the cops on him and thought that would scare him away but it did not. He told me he will pay bond out and he will only have a misdemeanor. He says he will hit a cop if he has too. Did I increase my chances of danger?  

3.He has a warrant for his arrest and has not been caught. He does not know he has a warrant for his arrest but I told him I called the cops on him. 

4.He still harassing me and I still go see him and answer him even though I called the cops on him.  

5.He seems to not care about going to jail. If I still see him after he gets out of jail did I increase my chances of being killed?  

6.What would happen if I stay with him even after a restraining order of if he does not care about a restraining order?   

7.He just wants to over power me but will he eventually leave me alone and get more jail time if he keeps on testing the waters? 

Its been almost a year to the day my ex was sentenced. One year into the restrianing order and he started texting.  

Can I sue someone for emotional abuse? I reported my X for a strangulation attack. He was given 1 yr probation as long as there was no other domestic abuse – and had to complete a compulsory 8 mo. Domestic abuse program – this was in 2018.  

He recently smashed my laptop – terrorized me in his home – threw my belongings out the front door – refuses to let me dress – poured vodka over my head while saying he ‘could’ smash the bottle over my head before he let me leave — half dressed — and without my purse that he followed me to give it to me before I drove away.  

He apologized & paid for a replacement laptop the next day.  

Can I sue him for emotional distress/abuse? 

If I have an abusive husband already have a dv case on him .he left home but everything in his name . But he came back and now Is stressing me and my kids out beating on side trailer want leave what are my rights if I call cops. Help I dont know what to do make him leave 

If two partners are cursing each other, & one partner says go & look at the abusive messages I have send you, since you want to perform rudeness, maybe you will choose to call 911 or commit suicide. 

Is that a criminal offense and a chargeable offense? 

 I’m in a marriage since 1975 I’m 63 yrs old and he used to physically and emotionally abuse. Now older the mental abuse keeps getting worse I was abused by my mom as a kid and he knows how I feel about that she is deceased now but he constantly calls me marilyn which was her name for me this feels awful because to be like her well I could not live with self he knows this. He never hears what I’m actually saying he twists it all around and swears I have a tone at times he dont like and says I said things I did not. He also says I’m on him all the time abusing him tells me I need help. Tells me I’m a user a c word a looser who never accomplished any success which is far from truth as I have succeeded in many things in my life. He tells my I’m sick. Fat I’m not fat either just not skinny. He tells me hair looks good then cuts it down with comments. My daughter 42 yrs old is living here for 2 yrs now we helped her get help for serious drug problems. She literally now repeats things he says but when he isnt around she agrees he is wrong I’m in a very odd situation here if I leave I have nowhere to go but my car to live in I’m disabled now. His moods are like diff at times I never know what’s co.ing next I can have no opinion he tells me to stfu. 

His eyes are scary and empty towards me how can I get out of this without having to leave my home he says I can and I can have my car that’s it. And if I take anything else he will have car turned off so I cant drive it by missing the next payment which isnt very many more. Its christmas but he keeps saying I’m ruining christmas and he will never forgive me I feel like he is crazy. Yet he tells me I am and tells everyone I am. After 6 hours I came home cause I had no money and nowhere to go and gas was low

My boyfriend has an anger problem that has only gotten worse throughout our three years of dating. I honestly don’t even know where to begin. He is extremely liked by everybody and nobody knows this happens so I don’t know who I could ever go to. I also recently moved 16 hours away from home with him because he is in the military so it is just us living together. 

He has always done really awful things when we have argued – whether that be mocking my face, calling me names, yelling at me, throwing things around me, etc. As far as deescalating the situation, nothing seems to work when he gets like this. I used to argue back but that only made things worse, sometimes I will cry or walk away which doesn’t help either. 

I also have a part to play in this. I was in a very toxic, abusive relationship before him which has made me a little paranoid in this relationship. On top of that, my current boyfriend has problems with lying to me. He has lied to me more times than I can count. What happened tonight was I caught him in a lie from weeks ago, and instantly after catching him in this lie he made everything my fault. He started yelling at me, cussing, throwing things around me, getting in my face, following me when I walked away. He told me he hates me, I’m controlling/suffocating, etc. 

This is honestly the worst it has ever gotten. I’m not sure what to do- besides the obvious is to leave him but I know I have a role in this too. Can you please give me some advice? 

I am in a emotional abusive relationship with my husband. He is an alcoholic and abuses me drunk or not. I know that I have to leave for my own well being. I am attending group counseling at Weave, but I feel I need more help. 

Though I may not show it but I am very broken inside. Years and years of abuse and keeping everything bottled up is really getting to me. I know I need extra help. Like a 1 on 1 therapy. How do I go about getting this kind of help. My first husband was also very abusive. He used to beat me, rape me and body shame me almost on a daily basis. After 8 years of abusive I ended up in the hospital, then floodgate of help came to me. At that time WEAVE came to my assistance and really helped me. Now I have been married to this guy for 30 years. Though everything was ok for the first 10 years or so then things begin to change. Emotional abuse, body shaming, belittling. Think, no, I know that I have begun to believe him that I cannot live without him. If I leave I will come crawling back to him. Another part of my brain is screaming that this is his way of keeping me in his control, under his thumb. Please help. I want a divorce, but I now know that I need help with my self sabotage before I can think of divorce. Sorry to have written so much. Any advise or help you give me will be very appreciated. 

How can I get help before he is released I AM IN FEAR FOR MY LIFE!!!!!!!! He will and he will murder me. When he is released from prison!

Hello, my boyfriend of two years just told me that he feels if he doesn’t “shut himself down” he would get violent in a way of breaking things but not violent towards me? i just need help understanding what this means.

The man I was with for 11 years . 3 years ago we broke up and during our break up I asked her if he wanted to have sex it started out consensual then got ugly . he was saying I’m going to hurt you like you ! then he got off me watched me cry and he said that’s what you get ..was this rape ? We are now separated but this was a root of our break up years later because I held this in and got back with this monster [Edited for content]. 

How to deal with emotional abuse when you have no one to turn to, it’s like power and control and that’s what he has and he has me where he wants me.but I want to make it clear to him that I’m nobody’s property Im not a child I can do whatever I want basically how to get him to realize that u have had enough?

I have an eviction on my record due to leaving an abusive situation. Can weave help me get the eviction off my record so I can leave an alternate living place?

I want out of a relationship and because I don’t want to be with him he wants to take my daughter from me and make it a huge fight. What should I do? It not a physical domestic violence its more of a mental.

I slapped my boyfriend first because he was in my face yelling(CPTSD) . He grabbed me by the shirt and threw me across the room. I hit my head(I’ve had 3 brain surgeries) and I’ve now started having seizures again(I got a TBI due to a different domestic violence incident years ago). I don’t know how to feel because I hit him first. What do you think?

Help. My boyfriend is harrassing me and he’s high on Meth he called the police 24 times and my landlord said no more police so I have” by called but they did not arrest him even though he’s abused me before and broke my foot.

I suffered in an abusive relationship for for almost 20 years. I am now out of that relationship and have found an amazing spouse and we have a beautiful daughter. I had thought that that part of my life was over. Recently my abuser contacted me. It has spread a debilitating fear through my life and I feel like I am spiraling out of control. I do not have insurance and can’t afford therapy so I feel like I am just trying to keep my head above water while floating closer and closer to a cliff. I just don’t know how to get my real life back. How do I stop reliving all of the trauma? How do I stop being triggered?

I over heard my co-worker talking about hurting there adopted daughter. I see the little girl with bruses, and hear her crying many many nights. I am scared that something might happen to this girl and don’t want it to be on my conscious for not speaking out for her. I am in fear for this girl’s life

I was married to a police officer for 15 years I am physically damaged and now physically disabled I left him and ran for my life with my only child and took relocation from the Florida Attorney General’s office they gave me $1,500 to relocate and start my life over I was bloodied everything in my apartment was broken and was always swept under the rug cuz it was that good old boy police thing I am so damaged it’s now 2019 we divorced in 2004 after he used judges that he knew and that his sister was their assistant to steal my daughter from North Carolina where I already won custody I couldn’t afford a lawyer so I was my own lawyer while his parents had several lawyers in both States hired for him in North Carolina I did get a court-appointed lawyer that was awesome that’s why I won custody his first visitation he took my daughter basically kidnapped her no one helped me it’s 2019 I now have seizures because I guess if the choking out here he always went for my throat it’s done some type of damage to a blood vessel in the right side of my brain I suffer in pain everyday I have been diagnosed with PTSD from several different psychiatrist in doctors throughout Florida North Carolina he continues to victimize me today. In 2004 he won custody in our divorce he lost his criminal justice certification in the State of Florida for a positive cocaine test I was denied any evidence or Witnesses I’m not a lawyer they that Court and the judges I was told by a judge after having injuries and Witnesses I have no idea who they were they called the police for me signed statements they arrested him it was another another city I’m suffering more than I probably did I’ve never been able to let my voice be heard and he’s never been punished the judge didn’t even give me half of his penchant he was trying to get alimony from me I had a great career he’s destroyed my life and I want to know if his Police Department that he worked for which is obviously no longer police officer and can I sue the county the court system is in I can’t seem to get my life back together again I I’ve tried everything I have a business plan in the future and it’s a wonderful plan and it’s a way I can earn a living and also give to this cause and a charitable way and educate Law Enforcement Officers by telling my story and educating them on what to look for I need someone to help me I need punishment I need something I feel like I’m getting all the punishment for marrying and I’m sticking it out of them as I did I’ve never been able to close it he still get at me through my daughter my daughter he’s got my daughter hating my guts I can’t have a relationship with her she’s dangerous for me too and she put her hands on me. I’m lost this is taking my every waking moment of my life I I need to feel better I want my voice heard the judges were so rude to me and honestly I want to write a book and say hear my voice. They told me I was poor them stump they refuse to let me leave the state of Florida so I lost my job in North Carolina did nothing but punished because I married a very abusive man what can I do to get my voice hurt and what are my rights to punish him whether it be a civil suit a federal lawsuit I’ll go after County Court Police Department I don’t care what can I do?? I need this I can’t get past this I can literally lost everyone in my life oh and all the witnesses were all threatened by my ex-husband and his dad if they testified they would make sure they lost their jobs I mean I heard everything wouldn’t I just ask them just tell the court the truth is what you see no sorry and they didn’t mean sorry I was like a hot potato when I knocked at the door they weren’t friends they didn’t care if my daughter was safe now my daughter it’s a monster just just like her dad I’m sorry it’s such an open-ended question but just tell me what I can do our laws haven’t gone very far and I’m curious I feel like someone is tied my hands my feet gagged me it has taken me over I can’t heal until I can get this done. Thank you. [Edited for length and content]

What if a woman is taken to jail for domestic violence and her husband let them take pictures of wounds that had been there due to his work. But he told police that his wife did it. What if the one claiming to be abused is in fact the abuser. What if one judge through the case out and then she sat in jail for 4 days without any charges. Finding out they were trying to keep her there because the following Monday the state was going to enhance the charge to a felony. She is just about at the end of her rope. He wants her to be in jail. He has done this at least 15 times. She just wont learn from the past. I guess she thinks she deserves this. Or it’s happened so much that it become the normal to her. What’s are the chances that the abuser can make the cops believe his spouse is the one abusing. What kind of judical system puts an abused woman in jail when she was telling the cops she didnt do anything to him. Wow! Wake up people our court system need to be checked on big time if she has to go to jail over something she didn’t do. Her husband is a big fat LIAR. 

Should I report rape/aggravated sexual assault that occurred 10 years ago to the police, if I know the perpetrator and their whereabouts? It was in the context of an abusive relationship. From 2009-2016, I lived out-of-state to avoid the perp. I moved back home in 2016, and have since married and had a child. I’ve also since started therapy, but my therapist is supportive regardless. Was hoping to get the opinion of others – perhaps those who have experienced something similar. 

My boyfriend of 6 years , who I live with in his house, told me he wanted me out. I found a good job close to where I’d be living. Gave a 2 week notice at current job near boyfriend’s house. Went there and he said sorry I want u to stay. 3 weeks later I quit good job cause over 500 miles a week on my vehicle, and staying with boyfriend so continued working at original job near boyfriend’s house. Well I’m now unemployed do to job near boyfriend is seasonal. Been there for 6 years. Cant find work near home, and now he kicked me out again. I’m so mad. I had a good job that I quit, due to being so far from boyfriend and now he wants me out again. This is the 5th time he wants me out. This is abuse right?

I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 3 years… we knew each other back in elementary and middle school to high school. I have always wanted to be with him and he me. But in high school he quit school and we both moved on with other people. Never seen him again till 3 years ago.. in school he was so quiet and shy . But since living with him for 3 years. He sure has become a devil but only when he drinks alot. Which is everyday. I left him a few times and he kept texting and calling begging for another chance. And said he stop drinking he did for a few weeks. He has pushed me down broke my tail bone so bad. Wouldn’t take me to the hospital. I drove myself. He has pulled my hair out and kicked me in my ribs. He keeps telling me I cheated on him but I haven’t and can’t as much as I love him. When they point the finger at u. Isn’t it the one pointing the finger at is usually doing the cheating,???? Please tell me what I should do. I love him I do. He has a kid that’s 18 and never has anything to do with her.

My husband and I have been married for 3 years we have a 7 year old from his previous marriage and then now have a 15 month old. Since I found out I was pregnant this may be about 3 mths into the pregnancy he started telling me how to spend money even though I work and then gets on to me about spending here and there for a drink or snack. He now wants me to get two weeks work of food at work then also I found out recently he got 3 more credit card besides the only 2 that I thought he only had. Keeps saying he will put my name on them so I can have one but never does now he has like 5 or 6 credit cards and a loan that didn’t tell me about or discuss with me. Also when he feels that his daughter is being slighted over her baby brother my son, he threatens that he will send me to my mothers and insist that he will get him a week and I will get him a week. No discussions nothing about that but I am tired of being threatened over and over of him divorcing me. Also he is verbally abusive if I don’t do the things that he feels is right about our son and then he will apologize later for the tone of voice but not what he is stating. I don’t know what to do anymore I am not happy with him anymore and I know from experience that it is emotional and verbal abuse. I don’t think he will ever hit me but I just don’t like how he is especially when it comes to our son and my step daughter who is 7 by the way.

My ex invited me to a party tonight. I went and we got in a fight. I went to his room to talk and he wouldn’t let me leave and was shoving me really hard and blocking the door. When I finally got out he followed me to my car. He shoved his body against mine and squished me up against my car to the point that it hurt my back. I was yelling for help and he was cussing at me. When I got my car door open he shoved me inside and slammed my door. Is this domestic violence? Can he get in trouble for it?

My husband has been calling me terrible names, degrading me in front of people, intimidating me, scaring me, on a daily basis for years now. I know I should leave him but I feel so weak to do anything about my situation. I used to be a very strong woman an RN for 25 years but after working 25 years I had some medical problems and had to leave it and I was since I did he has been so abusive. Controlling to the point where I’m not even allowed to talk to anybody and his family and barely anyone in my family. It’s crazy that I let somebody do this to me for so long but it’s weird how it’s very insidious and becomes worse and worse over time at least with me. Now it’s daily basis of abuse. My question is about I don’t have any money. I only have my house that we have paid for together and we both own. It’s not quite paid off but a lot of it is. My question is how do I get him with no money on my own to, I want to file for divorce and make him sell the house is there any options in Fort Lauderdale Florida for help financially with Filing for divorce and having him made to sell the house because I won’t be able to be in the house once he knows I’m filing for divorce in other words it Has to be him selling the house because if I tell him I can’t live in the same house because it would be unbearable even more. So I’m trying to see if there’s any help to file for divorce and make him sell the house that doesn’t cost a lot because I don’t have any money right now and also the logistics of how does it work? if I’m not in the house and I have to go stay with someone Who lives in the same state but very far away, like what is the process I guess is what I’m saying what is the process please and how long does it usually take and do I have to be going to court around my house to do something like that?. I know I was an RN for many years but I did not work with adults and you would think I would know these questions and would be stronger but I’m not at this time because I’ve been beat down for so long. Thank you so much

Is it possible to begin the process of reaching out for help via email, rather than over the phone or in-person? I live in Sacramento and am hopeful to reach out for support with what feels like a situation of something like domestic violence. However, I cannot easily leave my home and I’m afraid that he’s tracking my phone calls. Is there a way to possibly connect with someone, initially, through an email address?

I’m very mentally broken I feel. I’m dating a man who’s 18 years older than me and though its seldom physical violence, everyone years its constant mental abuse, gas lighting, passive aggressive behavior, and without telling me not to do something , has some how isolated me from the world.i use to know… Is it ok to still maybe get help or counseling from somewhere? I’ve become financially and in all ways codependent on him. He wouldnt chase me if I left he’d just let me go.. but I dont know where to go. Am I just being pathetic and weave and other programs are for serious real abuse..or is mental abuse a real issue as well? We physically fight sometimes but its rare..and he never actually yells or raises his voice at me..

Im from canada alberta and i have lived in a hotel for 3 weeks and paid daily..my husband and i got in a fight which caused the cops to be called and we both got taken to lovk up.. i went back to the hotel the next day and they had my car towed and impounded, they kept all my belongings and his and said i had to pay 800 dollars for damages done to room which was blood on mattress and carpet. They never charged me damage deposit or asked for visa..i paid cash daily. Is this legal for them to do this ?

i live with my mother and she overdoses on her medication every month and fall down and hurts her self and calls the cops and says that i hurt her she takes blood thinners and she bruise very easy so the cops take me to jail she call the ambulance on her self and says she took to many pills and fell down when im not there she is 67 years old and takes too many pill at once what can i do please help

My abusive ex-boyfriend/ex-best friend I just finally stood up to and said goodbye, but I’m scared he will. He has a sealed record for assault on someone and carries both a CCL and a gun plus I know he has old pictures of me and messages of mine that I do have a reasonable expectation of privacy regarding by law. I stayed friends with him after we broke up though I never realized how he was abusing me, and it got worse when I met someone. After I got married to that someone else, it worsened even more. Again I was oblivious to all of this, but I’m not now. Sometimes he would force himself on me sexually prior to our break up and he did physically assault me at least once that I can remember that wasn’t sexual in nature. What do I do? There are laws against spreading things with a reasonable expectation of privacy and against what some could be deemed non-consensual imagery. I’ve issued him a warning not to contact myself or my loved ones nor dare to harm or attempt to harm any of us in any manner otherwise I will pursue legal justice. Do I wait and him potentially wreak havoc on my life? Also how do I get out of this depression it’s spurred and how do I stop trying to find things through way of viewing social media and more? I’m absolutely devastated right now along with angry and scared. I don’t want to go back. I don’t want him back in my life. How do I stop fearing, ensure we’re protected, and truly move on from this?

I have two adult sons that are using drugs in my home punching holes in my walls just destroying my home throwing objects at me one son moved his girlfriend in and she is on drugs as well the police won’t do anything I’ve called them three times what can I do please help

I have been married to my husband for 11 years. I am currently pregnant with our 5th child together. In the past, he has been rough with me on a few occasions in anger. He would grab me usually, and once (the first time) held me down and pressed my face sideways telling me to stop saying the things I was saying. I was so scared on that occasion as he had never been rough before. But also told myself, well he did not hit me or actually hurt me. It was a long time before he lashed out physically again. Last last year I found out he got someone else pregnant and they now have a baby. I decided after some time if trying to make it work that I wanted a divorce. I have been telling him I want to divorce amicably and every time he resisted, and has been showing remorse, trying to show a lot of kind gestures towards me. However, a few days ago when we were discussing again that I want a divorce, he became enraged after I started speaking angrily towards him. He attacked me in my recliner I was sitting in, grabbing me and pinning me painfully into the chair… At this point I am wondering if this is real. This man has been a good husband. I said what he wanted me to say to stop him from hurting me further. I cried and prayed after he let me up. He calmed down and told me I made him do it and should not have hit him in his face. He also me chilling words, now I see that he is serious about not losing me, and now I see what he would do if I try to leave. Am I paranoid to take that as a threat to my life? I have considered making a plan to leave, but I am terrified that he would fulfill his threat and hurt me badly or kill me if he found me. Just hours later he was embracing me and whispering how much he loves me, needs me, and will do anything to keep me.

I want to leave but I know my children will be so sad if I took them away from our home and away from their father. I don’t want to hurt them. So I am also considering just staying and making sure I don’t ever lash out at him with angry words as that seems to trigger him. For the most part we have been able to have tough conversations without any kind of fear of violence. So this change over the last few years has been a shock.

I just need some advice. He is a good person and I feel he is in some kind of crisis as he inches towards age 50. I feel perhaps he fears losing me and felt the only thing to stop me would be to scare me like this. However, I don’t love him anymore and I do feel truly scared. I do care about him but I don’t want to underestimate him

Is there a place for men to go who have been in abusive domestic violence you guys plan places for women to go is there a place for a man to go in that situation

I’m not sure what kind of situation I’m in but I feel stuck. Only married a couple of year and have a 9 month old (too smart and big for her age) but recently my husband keeps starting arguments even ones we’ve fully discussed but he pushes and pushes to the point that I start yelling and defending myself and trying to make my voice and what I have to say herd but when it escalates he pulls out his camera and records it in my face saying “you should see yourself, do you know how you’re reacting, you need help”.after already argued for 20 minutes. Even after I tell him to leave or go away or I try to walk away or close the door to the room with my kid or sit quietly, he’ll push it open and contining the argument and record me to the point being hysterical. I don’t feel comfortable leaving my child with him but I don’t know how to get out of the argument and out of the camera. And now I feel like I can’t leave cause he has videos of me yelling in front of our little one to use against me.

Is a gaslight relationship the same as fb

my abuser is in prison for the third time. this time he beat me in the head and i have serious damage and i leave next month to cleveland clinic for more testing. he began emailing me from the prison and hasnt even been charged for any of the other violations he did, i am at a lose here and my town wont help my family and he only got 18 month. he blamed his drugs on me so i got indicted at 36 for my first felony or drug charge and i need serious help or this man will kill me. who do i contact for serious help?

Before we were married my husband (boyfriend at the time) blacked out on me while he was drunk and his sister thought he was going to kill me that night how he was acting he never laid a hand on me but broke other things She drove 2 hrs to come get me. I went back. After our first son was born he blacked out on me smashed my phone and took the car keys. I had to call the cops to leave that night. He said he was done drinking. He has blacked out a few more times where he said he was going to hit me and his buddies stood up and said if your going to hit any one it will be me. I warned him the last time if he ever blacked out on me again it would be his last. Well he did it again and this time he told me id be lucky to see the light of day again. I told him that I want a divorce it was your last chance. He says I am tearing our family apart and going to break the kids heart. He said things will change and he’s done drinking. I don’t know what to do.

Who can I get in contact with about gaining help in child custody family law cases? 

What organization can get some laws changed for domestic violent victims and their children – for more protection over the abuser?

Women are all able to escape but what happens when the children cannot because of court orders, what about the protection of the innocent children ? How are we supposed to help our children have a better future and break the cycle of abuse if the courts allow the children to be placed in the abusers care? 
This is not justice nor is this going to help the children have a better future. We need to do something to help the children. Please.

My partner put their hands on me once and I left.
I filed for and am getting a divorce.

[Yes, as it turns out, there was much financial abuse which I didn't recognize and didn't find out how much until my attorney discovered a secret bank account].

I have domestic violence counseling and a supportive boss at work.

In my new city, people have been telling me things like, “You are beautiful. Are you married? I want to go out with you…”

I have zero desire to date anyone right now, and zero desire to date anyone who thinks shallow flattery will get them anywhere with me.

I have been doing all the things to take care of myself but how do I stop giving off signals to creeps that I am vulnerable?

I have become more assertive so that is great. Something in me must still be shouting “victim” and i want to stop that.

I also didn’t know that being violent in front of me– even when not directed at me– is also domestic violence. This part of the message is not getting communicated to the public.

Hi I live in Iowa I’m new to Iowa after a divorce I took a chance and started dating someone I had been talking to my social media this guy is the most psychotic dangerous person I’ve ever encountered he is friends with a police officer in the nearby town I have told the police officers everything that he is doing and because he sells meth to an officer he’s Big Man on Campus and they wont do anything about what he’s doing he’s on probation he stalks me he abuses me threatens me if you saw my face right now I could provide proof of abuse he has tried planting drugs in my car in my home last week he broke my door I don’t know what to do I cannot go to the police this guy is a daily use user of methamphetamines and I’ve even contact us a probation officer and they have not tested him I am so scared out of my mind. I’m moving next Saturday. He’s already on to my location.

i overdosed on pills to commit suicide and i went to my boyfriend for help and i passed out. i awoke to him sexually assaulting me. can i press charges? It happened over a year ago but I have text messages where he admits it

My soon to be ex husband has said to me multiple times that the motorcycle club he is a part of is watching me. That even if I move out of state they are a nation wide and I will be safe no where.
His girlfriend who is also in a motorcycle club has said she will kick my ass and I’m being watched.
I just want to be left alone.
Suggestions?

My friend is super quiet and talks about sex when she does talk. She limps when she walks and talked to a large man and then had to leave. She always wears black and sometime wears long sleeved shirts. Something just doesn’t sit right… Is she being abused?

Who do I call when 911 Sacramento sherrifs dpt fails me? I’ve called 911 2xs now on my neighbor for throwing his wife to the ground. As I was on the phone with 911 he was outside hiding his gun. I was telling the 911 operator this. Sherrifs dpt came out done nothing. A month ago he called 911 saying she was having a seizure. Zero history if seizures. He beat her up pretty bad. She wasn’t able to say what happened due to her condition. We know the fear and issues that come with why the abused stays. I just called 911 on him for hitting her and they showed up said we got a report of fighting going on here, the abuser says nothing going on here and they left. So when the sherrif dpt fails u repeatedly what other option are there before shes dead. Btw he punched her in the nose and try to chock her today. Took cops 45 min to get here. From what my x-cop sister says if we dont show up right away we dont care.

I am the youngest of 3 daughters. I’ve been helping my elderly parents. My oldest sister 53 was homeless and moved in with us, along with her 23 year old daughter. My Mom has some Alzheimer’s. She is verbally, physically and psychologically abusing me and my Mom. Although she does not get physical with my Mom..she still screams at her. My Dad abused my Mom and I growing up. He lives with us too, but does nothing to protect us. I am in my 40’s but am afraid to move out and leave my Mom. Social services were ” anonymously ” called. My sister says shes going to get me kicked out. She is psychotic and unstable. What do I do to protect my Mom and myself ? My Psychiatrist knows all about my sisters abuse, as does many of my friends. I gave the worker all of that info.
My Mom is 81 years old. Her and I cannot take much more. 
As a result I’ve developed heart problems. I’ve always been so healthy. Help !!!

My sister is 8 months pregnant with a boyfriend that checks off all the boxes for emotional and mental abuse. Most recently he’s threatened to physically hurt her, or wait until she gives birth to their child and then hurt her and put her back in the hospital if she doesn’t give him money. Is there anything we can do as her family legally to make him reconsider his words and potential actions? I’ve asked her to report him and she breaks down into tears saying she doesn’t want him to go to jail, but I’m concerned for her safety and in the future, the baby’s safety.

I have a friend, who has a friend, that has been married to her husband for 30 years. From my knowledge, he’s never physically abused her, just mentally and emotionally. She has brought up divorce and he has threatened her. My friend has opened her home to her friend, if she ever wanted to leave. Her friend is afraid of what her husband may do to all surrounding people who help her. She’s afraid to leave him. Is there a report the wife can make? What can she do? Can I call to see if PD is willing to make a home visit? I don’t want the day where something does happen and it’s too late.

I had enough of his mental abuse telling me my home is not mine everything is all the money in the bank is his and I can’t touch none of it and that’s why he took my name off of my savings joint account with them he forged my name and I was never aware of that until now I want to know what I have to do and is she going to go to jail is the big picture because I am tired of being abused and neglected by so-called husband that cares about me but he doesn’t kiss about the money he doesn’t want me to have nothing he says everything is not mine but I know half of everything is mine I just don’t know how you go about the forgery of the joint account savings account I need to know what to do next. He had no right to forge my name to take me off of my savings account with him a joint account all that money in there is not mine says it’s his she has nothing and when my name was on the joint account I barely went to the bank to get money she did that when I took out $100 so I can pay my bills and that’s what he was up to set about and that’s why he forged my signature to take me off of my account with them

Hi I was bullied into signing my divorce papers almost 3 years ago . I was thrown out of our marital home after being married for almost 3 years I was threatened and blackmailed into signing the divorce agreement without representation . I was emotionally and psychologically abused by a narcissist for the week that I was moving out of state . I feel that the divorce agreement was very weak and I’m still paying debts from the marriage on a very meager salary my ex will not help me with any credit card debt anything like that. I was a domestic in the marriage I didn’t have a job he is a very well-off owns his own home I’m living in a trailer . He came down here on a week vacation with his new girlfriend without telling me and was in establishments that I visit frequently I almost walked in on them . What the hell I’ve been through emotionally the past 2 1/2 years I don’t know how I would’ve reacted to a surprise and shock like that so I’m thinking of getting a restraining order to.
I was suicidal when he threw me out and totally traumatized and in shock . I didn’t recognize the man who is used to be my husband it was frightening !! I had all the neighbors on high alert because I didn’t know what he was capable of his anger was off the charts . I have a little money now that I feel I could sue him for emotional damage and for breach of contract and to get some of this debt.
I just want to stand up for myself in the way that I was not able to at the time . Is it too late to get a lawyer and fight him he’s in another state our divorce is final but I was thinking of opening up a new case with all of my mental health documentation.

My husband of 10 years is probably having some mental problems, since from time to time we fight over the fact that he “works”, and he hates to work or at least what he says. He is normally very shy, and not so capable person. I was forced to open my own company and have him a job 8 years ago, since most places he went people abused his kindness. He should be happy that i did so many sacrifices to have him work, and days off without concerns. .. [edited for content]…He jumped and hit me in the head really hard two times. I was on the sofa, and the slaps where so hard that I collapsed sideways. My face got red, and I told him I’ll call the cops. He jumped again and started to choke me, i was gasping for air, and he said that he would kill me before I call the cops. This is the 2nd time he is hitting me like that, only this time is harder. Last time my mom was on the phone with me and called 911, he got arrested.Me, being stupid cleared him out from all records, since I am ex- law enforcement, and have my ways. This time he was very violent and threatened my life by choking me. Its so ironic, I have sacrificed so much for this person to be productive in society, and this is what I get. I could’ve called 911, but I have upcoming law enforcement job opportunity and hold on to it because of that. Ultimately, my face is very swallowed and I feel really low. I do feel abused to the point where I question my safety. I have 2 small kids and everything that we own is under my name so I do not worry about this.I do believe he has other ways to fulfill his intimate needs, and punish me for the reason why he provides for the family. That to me seems mental issue. 
Not sure what to do. 
By the way, NOBODY hit me in the head that hard throughout my entire life.

My neighbor is constantly screaming at his six year old cursing and using the n word .Is there anything I can do to help?

My wife left me and me and her have a son together how i have with me at are home and she has her son im was step dad to but i found out that why wife wantd full custody of my son and i want full custody because the perosn she is trying ro be with is ready for this the othere baby daddy who is a convited felony child abuse naglect child indangerment and it was her other son that was besten by this man at age 3 and she is running back to him this can not ve legeal for her he has no right and i cant see how goting back to that man that almost killed your child is ok there has to be something i can do to stop her from makeing this desition i dont want my wife back but i dont wanna have to keep my son from her but my son will not be put in that type of postion ant advice would be great

I am the victim of domestic violence when my 20yo step son stabbed me several times puncturing a lung where I spent nearly a week in the hospital. He was incarcerated immediately for attempted murder. 
His mother/my spouse immediately started supporting him. She retained an attorney that is the best in the state, tried mitigating the extent of the injuries, has constantly called him, the mail is always gone and seems that her concern is not for me.
I communicated my feelings of betrayal and insensitivity of the actions I endured. After our conversation/argument about the situation there is no resolve. I guess I would expect full support. Is that not possible due to the incident being her child?
I now have to fight for my rights as a victim since the state prosecutor is too busy to do anything with my case. The defense has hired a special investigation team to mitigate the damages.
What should I do?
It was all caused from drugs, he has threatened to kill me previously, very unstable person. I walked in the house, asked him to leave since my wife called me due to him being crazy throwing things around and being violent. I asked him to leave where he immediately began stabbing me.
What do I do in this case?!?!

I’m very uncomfortable with my counselor and there has been violation of my confidentially domestic violence issues and problems with family and imtimate partner of about 10 years ago harassment sexual abuse how can i get away from falling victum to their..everyone knows each other conflict..slander too want to press charges 

My boyfriend and I have been together for two months and he found out I cheated he was upset we separated for a while then he found out I had a male friend which was only that, a friend, and he got angry and hit me twice he held me down to keep me from screaming and calling the police but I love him but now I want to press charges what should I do I’m still sore from the entire thing

My husband and I have been together 8 years. Throughout our relationship we have had periods of time where he goes from being loving and a considerate partner and father to being abrasive, distant, eventually escalating to the point where he is short tempered with me, our children, even our pets. It happened again last night, it’s been awhile since it happened so I guess I didn’t see it coming or I was just stupid in handling it. He was being very, mean…short. Yelling at the kids, the dog. Once I put our kids to bed I asked what was wrong. He screamed and shattered a plate over his face. He calmed down and apologized, seemed almost normal. Then he woke up this morning being cruel again, screaming at the children. Putting me down. I don’t know what to do or who to turn to. I have no friends anymore, years ago my friends wanted me to leave him and he said it was them that was the problem. I don’t even have social media of any kind. The few people we interact with all think he is great, kind, friendly etc. I guess I don’t know what to do, or if I am overreacting. I don’t know if it was my fault for asking him what was wrong. I have thought about leaving, but worry over how it will effect my kids and also financially keeps me here.

My brother has always had a temper. He blows up at the littlest things and blames my parents for basically everything. One time during an argument he said my mom blamed her having cancer on him. Still the main point is that he has set fire to this bridge once he bought his new house with his fiance. We do not like her because she dose not pick up a dish, help out or even pretend to be in a good mood. At one point she told my mom to “grow up” and my mom then got mad and told her she was the parent and not to disrespect elders. Well she tattled on my mom to my brother and he went nuts on my mom. Shouting all these things to her that come from nowhere, when he gets like this nothing can calm him down. Here’s my problem, I was talking to the fiance and she told me how he blows up, should get help, that the group therapist told her to avoid predatory people like my brother. She then asked if I can keep a secret secret. I say yeah and the yellow and green bruise that she claimed was from “yard work” was him. They got into a fight about ant traps and how he kept asking where to put them. She didn’t care and he got upset and punched her leg. That bruise that my mom told her to get x-rayed because it may be broken was from him. I am angry at him, angry at her for staying with him, and angry at myself for not warning her enough. I told her my brother had that mean side from the beginning. It wasn’t enough, he is so cheap that he doesn’t want to get help unless it’s free. I am afraid his free anger management may be from jail. He hasn’t hit their dog. He has put holes in the wall from when he lived with us. Cut up shirts mom got him just to get back at her. What do I do?

If I was charged with DV 1st if my step daughter is the one who help lie to get me put in jail what can I do because I really didn’t committee this crime but the law enforcement is the one who pushed it and it’s been 3 years almost.

I got a public defender but he works for the state a free lawyer how much would it cost to get a good lawyer

I just need to vent. I am my aging husbands caretaker. He needs assistance getting dressed, getting using the restroom etc. He falls constantly because his legs have become weak. It is a frustrating situation for both of us. Lately he treats me like I don’t know how to care a wound he has on his ankle and repeatedly tells me what the nurse said about dressing the wound. I get upset because I feel he thinks I don’t know how to dress the wound. Tonight he called me a name, something he never does and told me to get away from him because he doesn’t want to hit me, again something he never does. He is almost 73 and his outbursts are increasing. Could he be getting dementia? My first instinct is to get as far away from him as possible but then reason takes over. I can’t leave him. Who would care of him? 
Besides this is my home too and I have no money to move. Second our family would never forgive me if I left him. I am hurt by the name calling and threat of physical abuse. I just don’t know what to do. Can you give me advice. I need to hear a voice of reason. Thank you

My boyfriend is also the father of my twins. Before we had the kids, he was okay just a little particular but I never really minded it. He never really did anything that I considered abusive or even scary. After the kids, he became a lot more on edge and yelled often enough, but I thought it was normal. He was just stressed cause we’re young (I’m now 25 and he’s about to be 28) but now the kids are three and yells at me every single day. He baites me into arguments and after I explode he tells me I need to control my anger. Every day he curses at me, yells at me, and complains about everything I do wrong every single day when he comes home from work. I’m a new stay at home mom because we can’t afford daycare even w both of us working and I don’t own a vehicle so I can’t drive. With that being said, I depend on him for most things I And our kids need and he always throws that in my face. “I do everything for you you do nothing for me” and when I bring up that’s its me that takes care of our kids (and one of them has special needs) he says “so what.” And when I tell him I don’t like how he speaks to me or treats me, he says “I can talk to anyone however I want. You need to stop having such thin skin.” I feel trapped and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be with him anymore but my family lives in another state and I have nothing and no one here. I don’t know if this is even abuse I just need advice.

If the department of CPS gave custody to the father of my granddaughter and he got charged with PMFA and she was there wouldn’t it be that CPS has put my granddaughter In harms way what can I do about it to get them out of CPS custody because I’m worried about their well-being

As a man and father to my children about a year ago next month my ex assaulted me and my now girlfriend. My ex has a charge against us. She did not let me see my kids for almost a year I just seen them about 2 weeks ago but now she say of I don’t give her a phone number nor address I can not see my kids. Due to her no contact order do I have to give her my number and address to see my kids. All she does is harass me and my girlfriend.

I have an ex I wanna report I don’t want him to know and he’s very scary I’m 17 n he’s 46 what do I do I need help I messaged the hotline they are not accepting any messages I guess and I need help I wanna put him where he belongs back to prison. I had a rough situation he said if I work for him he’ll give me a lot of money he’ll buy me things but then I got involved with him like love and he had me living with him every other day cause I didn’t live there permanently he would hit me when he thought I was staring at a guy he’ll hurt me until he’ll get my phone from me he made problems he would make fake accounts and say I did this and that and I didn’t . I wanna report him help

Can I press charges against my husband who choked me 2 years ago

I have an ex who was sexually and physically and financially abusive. He grew up in gangs and has a family member in the dmv to track down people who don’t pay. I know hes had dropped assault charges. And I’m scared because he threatened my family when I left. He wouldn’t have to lift a finger even in jail. I’m not sure what to do because i would never be able to have an apartment job or car or get married and him not knowing and possibly hurting me. What am I supposed to know if I only know the guys nickname.

My sister just found out that her boyfriend used to (6 years ago) beat his ex girlfriend/mother of his son. (We saw 5 different police reports with dates, etc) My sister is 10 weeks pregnant with his child, obviously she never would have started a relationship with him if she had known of his past- he has never laid a hand on her, but this news makes her extremely uneasy and paranoid. What should she do?

My Sister Husband punch her in the head and Jaw she had a concussion, there is a standing criminal order in place. He is reaching out to her neighbor getting all of her whereabouts. P.O. gave him a gps monitor so he can come into the city where she is but when he is off of probation he will track her down, he never return keys we change lock to apartment but he does have key to get inside of the building what can we do? she needs help in finding another apartment to live where he can’t find her

Does anyone know if you live in Pennsylvania if your husband abuses our dog is this domestic violence. He also broke my arm previously. He has bad anger issues and is making me scared.

He never hit me. And it was years ago, when I was in high school (I’m in college now). I dated this guy who completely isolated me from my friends because they were “too goody-goody”. I would go to concerts with a guy friend and he would send me pictures of his self-harm. He would fake panic attacks so I would spend time with him. We had sex all the time, even when I didn’t really want to. He would constantly punch walls when we were fighting. He would send single letters in strings of texts so my phone would blow up with notifications. He smoked around me all time and escalated to other drugs even though I was visibly and verbally uncomfortable with being in that situation. I feel awful saying I was in an “abusive relationship” because he never hit me and so many women and men have been through worse. I also feel like I should be over it by now. I still have some self-harm scars from that time and I feel like that might contribute, but I still feel off.

My ex from India is blackmail me to send my nude photos to my family and friends.. What should I do? Pls help me..How can I report a blackmail?

I don’t live in the area but I feel more comfortable discussing this through a platform like this. You might still have insight that is helpful. I have a 19 month old daughter, her father and I split when she was 5 weeks old. This split happened a week after he got drunk and went into a rage. He pushed me while I held our baby, then held my face and screamed preventing me from moving away, I was holding our baby the whole time. He then followed me through the house and attempted to kick down a locked door and then proceeded to grab my face and threaten me, again with our child in my arms. The whole relationship was emotionally abusive. A year prior to this incident he slapped/pushed/hit me and I fought back. I didn’t file a report when the incident when my child happened because I was scared of retaliation and trauma bonded to him so deeply. He reported his anger was due to PTSD from being deployed (which I now know he never was). He has an extensive history of anger and lying. We share custody of my child and I’m worried bout the potential of his anger becoming explosive (if not towards her) in front of her. Basically my question is since I didn’t file a police report when it occurred and he’s been a part of our child’s life (I only allowed this because he said he was in counseling) can it even be seen as valid? I have recorded phone calls, texts, and emails of him admitting to the incident. We even went to co-parenting counseling and I tried to talk about it, my ex admitted it, and the counselor said “we don’t need to go into the details”. I felt so invisible in that moment. That the trauma and abuse I faced was brushed off by a professional that is supposed to report such things and protect me. If I spoke to an advocate and they were in court with me (if that occurs) would that be beneficial even if there is no police report?

My sister just left her now ex boyfriend a few days ago because he was very abusive (He even beat her while she was asleep with her 2 year old daughter beside her on the bed). She went to bible study yesterday around 7pm and we have not heard from her and her daughter since. We know he has them but we dont know what to do. We dont know if they are hurt, okay, dead, alive, or even still in town. He blocked our numbers and if we call from another number he hangs up the instant he realize its us. What should we do, I’m so worried?

My daughter moved to New York with her boyfriend in December. He signed a contract with his parents to lease with option to buy a second home that they have. He is verbally and now becoming physically violent with her and continues to threaten to lock her out where she cannot get her stuff. Police have not been involved yet except for the time i seen the sheriff over there and i am in Arizona trying to mediate. He has now taken her key and says she has no right nor do i to enter the home to collect her belongs. Can he by New York law lock her out and obstruct her ability to collect her items so she can move out and come back to arizona with me

My friend just busted my window out he a friend but he likes me should I call the police

My significant other’s father “promised” to break my face in. While I was visiting my SO (he lives with them to help financially support them), what do I do if this happens again? Can I call the police if he threatens me in his home? how does this work if I live with my SO? He was verbally abusive, called me a “liberal bitch” a narrcassist, a psychopath. Never calls me by my actual name because my real name is Spanish, so he calls me Jonny even through I am a woman. Has also called me racial slurs.

im 16 and my mother is not in the picture but my father is abusive to my mental heth but never dose this to m 5 year old sister. i have a frends parents who would love have me live with them except my father is vey cotroling and i have no idea on how to get them the legal custady of me and live with them. how would i go about doing this with out CPS getting involved?

Who can I turn to to help me with attorney since there was fraud in my divorce case. I’m an older woman now with diagnosis of cancer. And my husband was ordered to restore my spousal military benefits he diverted to his ex-wife and was arrested in divorce court and got out of jail as indigent, even though he makes over 15,000 a month in government retirement. And we’ve been married since 2004, and are currently in a pending divorce case here in Georgia. Legal aid will not take my case as they said they heard of my case I assume, his attorneys or my attorney contacted them… [edited for content] A fraudulently entered final order in a divorce matter and recovering government benefits that were ordered as a part of the pending divorce case. It’s my health has been irreversibly compromised, because I never received my spousal military benefits that were diverted to my husband’s ex-wife of only 3 years my entire marriage and she is still receiving my benefits in perfect health. Would someone please represent me in Georgia, the home foreclosed that he was ordered to pay the last thing that was put in was by the judge a few months ago and with my health and the Foreclosure of our home of 10 years I put in a motion to transfer and I need help completing the transfer, income deduction, contempt (the restoration of my benefits ordered etc. ) And the legal final decree.

my husband put lying order protection on me can I file iied claim on him

my husband had hit me and I’m currently 3 months pregnant & he was arrested. His visa is expired I was wondering if he could get deported for this type of crime & if I will be informed if he is, with a baby on the way I’m a little concerned about this.

Hi, I confronted a man that has been making sexual comments and verbal aggression towards my girlfriend. I confronted him at his work and now they wanna press charges. No violence happened. But now he is telling her that the only reason she has a job is cause of him and still makes it seem like if she doesn’t side with him that he will press charges and jeopardize her future job. What can I do?

My Husband and I argued and he came up in my face. I panicked, pushed him away with one hand and slapped his arm with the other. He picked a knife off the kitchen side and held it towards me. I ran and hid outside for a few hours until he had gone to bed. He had been drinking, I hadn’t. This morning, he said he was going to the police cos I had hit him. I am worried I will get into trouble. Should I go to the police first and tell them what I did.

If I’m in an abusive relationship and I take our pets (registered in my abuser’s name) and flee town, can I be arrested or sued?

My husband and I have heated loud and physical arguments on a weekly and sometimes daily schedule, around our 4 month baby. I’m scared that this is having a negative impact on her and that I’ve day these violent shouting matches will get our baby hurt. I ask him to lower his voice he gets louder on top of our baby. I want to leave this apartment with my daughter by I seriously fear him.

My husband and I were both charged with domestic violence we are not pressing charges against each other we just want to go forward and forget this terrible night ever existed we waved our rights for attorney did we do the right thing our bail was set at $40 and they only held us for 6 hours I’m going to live in Massachusetts

I’m curious if this would be considered domestic violence …………I have 2 teen children 16 and 19 and I’ve lived with the same man for 17 years he has never been physically abusive to me but it seems to be emotional abuse and he has made me feel like I’m not good enough for him and my children have told me if I leave they will either stay here or move with their father because the man we live with is their uncle and he has made promises more times then not he has told me many times I’d have nothing if it wasn’t for him and if I leave I’d be on the streets and he’d make sure that if I live in this county I reside in he’d make my life hell I’d rather move to a different county and I’d hate to say it but if I take my kids they will tell him and his family where I am my son 19 has yelled at me and told me to leave shit the way it is and stop being such a cry baby ……my bf has made promises of marriage but yet he jumps when his wife calls and they have been separated for over 18 yrs way before we hooked up and when I bring it up he becomes verbally abusive and makes me feel like I’m crazy like I should just deal with how things are or just leave I know my case isn’t as bad as others but I still feel like I have no way out

Wife has what appears to be bi polar episodes. She goes from being sweet- needy- to worried- angry – saying violent things and often making violent gestures or minor whacks on me and children that are not directly related to the kids behavior, but more related to her personal preferences at the time…. Should I file a restraining order? If I file divorce she will turn it into a total wreck inflicting as much damage as possible on us. She is very smart and talks a lot. What should I do? [Edited for length]

Me and my fiance got in a fight and it got physical nothing bad but I called the police and now he has a felony domestic assault charge he should not be in trouble for us fighting I just got mad at the moment and called the cops we have a great life together 3 kids 2 of which lost their real mom last month to meth and we are very happy just got stupid whiskey drunk and got dumb from it what can I possibly do to help him get out of this and get our life peaceful again???????? I’m desperate!!!

My boyfriend and I got into an argument. I started hitting him first because I was so angry. Since I wouldn’t stop he grabbed my hair and started pulling it. Then he started slamming my head against the counter and window. This was in a car. I wanted to report him but he said I would be the one to get in trouble because I started hitting him first. My question is does this count as domestic abuse on his part since he’s the man? Was it wrong for him to put fight back?

I been married for almost 2 years and my wife has a son that’s 13 yrs olds and ever since we got together and married he has changed to worse. He smokes marijuana punches walls on our home and has pushed her mom and has kicked me. He is super aggressive tours everyone including police. He is trying to become a gang member and is doing every thing that’s is wrong. He don’t come back from school unless we call the police and report him as a run away kid. He has told police and a juvenile detention officer that he is going to do anything that will put him in Jail for life. He has no regret of what he does and I’m afraid he will hurt or kill someone soon..

my soon to be ex husband got arrested last year for domestic abuse against me. I finally had the courage after 8 years of dealing with his abuse to call the cops and have him arrested. he got deported to mexico but came back two months later after his mistress smuggled him back into the country. He just got arrested again for domestic abuse against her and is in jail and will be deported again once he serves his sentence. my question is when I file for divorce will I be able to request full custody of my three girls and get his right terminated or will the court try to set up a visitation schedule once he is out of jail?

My BF of 7 years was arrested for assault with a strike and had a no contact order until his court date. This was the worst case as it progressively got worse. However I feel guilty because it only happens when he drinks he doesn’t remember and is a marine vet. If charged he could lose his job. I didn’t get him arrested however since we can’t talk I feel like he hates me while I still want to be with him. How do I not feel this way? And should I drop the charge and go back with him?

I have MS, my husband is my primary caregiver paid by the state we live in $2300 a month. Recently I found a video of me on the floor not breathing. The video lasted 4 mins my face was purple I looked posed like a frog. He says I fell off the bed n he tried 6 hrs to get me up then just gave out!! We were on a USAF base but he never called 911!! He didn’t intend me to see.. I have $400,000 in life insurance and just prior to this he was trying to get me to get more. I live in an extremely small town I took video to “MAYBERRY OFFICERS” they looked at me like I was crazy even though he has a prior DV conviction.. what kept me from dying my cat!!
Now same husband just walked off left cleaned out bank to the negative flew 2000 miles away to be with his online Whore.. he made no arrangements for me and I’m 100/% dependent on him is this not abuse!!

My girlfriend and I got into an argument. She was intoxicated I was sober. She ended up calling the police to try and have me removed from our home. Instead during her rundown of events she indicated that she knocked a cigarette out of my hand because I lit it in the house which we don’t smoke in. They immediately said she was being arrested for domestic battery, even though she didn’t commit it against me. I had no marks, I didn’t call, and made no statement that she hit me. I simply agreed that she knocked it out of my hand with the intent on putting my cigarette out. How can this be? She never hurt me. She is 27 and never even had a speeding ticket, she has been in jail for 2 days since it is the weekend, will they release her on her own recognizance tomorrow at her hearing? I don’t see how they are trying to charge her with battery when she did not.

Hi. I am a male, i have being with my fiance for the last 17year living with her for 15ish years. Up until now i haven’t even thought of it as abuse. She was drinking every night and she would say things about me and my family that she wouldn’t say if she didn’t have a drink. The next day she wouldn’t remember anything. If i was at work the next day when I get home she is acting like nothing has happened.

My ex-boyfriend was very emotionally and then physically abusive. I never reported it to the police out of fear that he would retaliate. It’s been about 2 years now, and I’m worried that he could still be looking for me, or even do this again to his next partner. Should I still report it? I think it’s past the statute of limitations, but I feel like it should be on record somewhere. What should I do?

My ex best friend of several years and 1 year more than friends, inseparable, he did everything for my son and I. Years went by and I was still never anything other then his friend or neighbor. He found someone else and had me arrested multiple times and jailed. All over false allegations of domestic violence via cyberstalking. Of course it turns out to be refused in court no charges were filed and that was that. But got arrested multiple times. Ruined my life. He was the abuser who got away with it because he is as cop. How can I ever ruin him like he has done to my life my future my sons future.

Are domestic abuse charges dropped from defendant when victim dies

My question or comment.. I am looking to get help in getting some things out and in storage. I attempted this afternoon at 130pm and unfortunately the ABUSER I live with started going off cussing aggressively. I had to call the person I found on Craigslist for moving help and warned him about my situation. BUT I STILL NEED HELP.

I AM SCARED BUT I HAVE NO ONE REALLY.

My ex had gotten charge with hitting me now over a year later now their wanting to charge me as well for hitting him too. Can they really do that when I live in a other state now and it’s been over a year and I was never change with anything or now went to jail for anything.

I need Advice I dont Know what to do.. I’m in love with someone who is sweet but he gets mad quick I get Scared sometimes. If my significant other gets mad quick because I asked Him the same question 3 times.. because he wasn’t clear in my opinion & then he chokes me & squeezes my face & points at my forehead really hard is that a sign of him not wanting to tell me things & being violent ?

In order for me to get an apartment after being in an domestic violence shelter do I have to file an order of protection for the person who abused me?

In 2014 -2016 me and my brother moved in with my dad and his girlfriend and kids and her daughters who are older than us and as the time went on we saw a side of my dad’s girlfriend that we never knew .She verbally and physically abused us, for me when she whooped me 30 times one day for coming home in my gym clothes because she wanted me to come home in what she sent me in an I was sore for about two weeks my lower part was purple and while she whooped me I was screaming and she got tired of hearing me so she slapped me and told me to shut up or she would put duct tape on my mouth …… But I regret it every day knowing that she is still living her life and doesn’t think what she has done was wrong but she would just say it was discipline and I would hate for her to do it to someone else I wonder what I could have done to put her away besides getting evidence since are bruises were gone. (Edited for length)

If I call the cops on my abusive boyfriend and he’s not on my lease or any of the bills at my house or anything will they for sure be able to make him leave. Cause I sure Wud hate to the call the cops and there’s nothing they can do because it’s a “civil” matter ! And that Wud make it so much worse on me if they can’t make him leave and I called them

I really need help. I’ve been married for 5 years now. The first 4 years was good. Last year it all went bad. My husband has broke my rib busted my nose and put a knife to my throat. I tried to leave and he treated me saying if I make it out he will hunt me down and I’ll regret it that’s if I make it out or I can leave but it will be in a body bag. He has never hurt my kids ever. Tonight my daughter didn’t wanna go to bed. Out of no where he hit the heck out of her back with a belt. I called the cops but he lied to them and they left. Idk what to do. Am such a worthless mom. Help

About 7 to 5 years ago i was emotionally and sexually abused by my ex fiancee. Is there any way i can file a lawsuit without having to confront him. It gives me the chills just thinking about this and i dont ever want to see him. I saw him around november of 2018 while I was on my way home from work in Berkeley, CA and i got a panic attack just seeing his face. I never went back to work since that day because i didn’t want to cross paths with him again. He use to buy me alcohol. He cheated on me several times when we were engaged and he use to make me smoke marijuana so that i can be “relaxed”.

How can we as parents address plausible accusations of violence against our son who is middle aged. We are aware of his controlling behavior and his verbal abuse but up until this time we weren’t aware of any violence. His father has had conversations with him in the past regarding this behavior trying to get him to understand the damage he is doing to his all of his relationships with no results. This last weekend it became physical and we are heartsick and frightened. We live in another state and considered traveling to confront him but became concerned that might just make matters worse.

The other night I called the police on my husband who suffers from PTSD and he choked me until I could not breath after an angry argument we had where initially I was irate in text messages and calm when I got home he got violent when I got home and I fearing for my safety called for help with the police. My husband fearing he would be arrested made a statement that I held a knife to him and they arrested me they said because I through text messages looked like I was the aggressor and we both told different stories. His lie has brought fourth a felony arrest for what occurred and if charged I will lose my career, my education and my future potentially. My husband wants to stay married but he doesn’t see that he had the control of his bx not to allow it to physically escalate and he had not care for my safety and that is why I called the police. My life was more important than his inability to self-regulate. I hired a lawyer and I hope the charges are declined by the DA, my husband refused to press charges and pleaded to the police not to arrest me. Over the years I’ve endured so much abuse and trauma with this man and the day I call for help the police make him the victim. I’m seeking support in my church, my family, and friends. I don’t want to be married anymore to this man and now I have a criminal lawyer when in should have hired a divorce attorney months ago. My only question is where should I go from here when everything feels stacked up against me.

My mother in law told my husband to put order protection on me with all lies. I want to call her church and report her.

My husband put lying order protection on me actually this is the second one. He stole my clothes and won’t let me get them should I call his lawyer?

My friend said she was beat by her ex-husband 10 years ago and he is still trying to control her life won’t let her have any friends what is the best way to help her get her life back?

My husband has been verbally abusing me, sometimes hitting me and threatening to hit me or kill me. Just found out I am pregnant and the abuse and threats got worse. He wants an abortion and threatens to kill me if I don’t have one. I have told him several times I want a divorce and he needs to leave the house, which I have bought it. What should I do with a person that wont leave my own house and is being abusive and threatening? Have not told a soul of my situation, I am afraid and don’t know what to do.

My mother hit me as a child. I never saw bruises because I never thought to look, not because they were not necessarily there. I was sore for days after sometime though and one time u could see her entire hand on my cheek from where she had struck me. My brother told me it wasn’t physical abuse because I never saw a bruise. Was it abuse or no?

My wife had a mental breakdown that was also alcohol fueled and became belligerent. She was causing a huge, loud scene outside of our home. She ended up falling down into something and injuring her face pretty badly. Our neighbors called the police due to the loudness of the situation. The police arrested me for aggravated battery on her. Her police statement to the police on scene was that I absolutely didn’t hit her and that she was acting crazy and fell down and hit her face. We both got attorneys. A declination of prosecution was filed by her attorney. I’m terrified and embarrassed by this perfect storm of coincidences that have me falsely accused. Do I have a chance for the charges to be dropped? This is my first run in with the law and I have no history of any violence what so ever. Thank you

My wife had me arrested saying I drove by her house Monday night violating the order. Now, I was at home with my roommate and talking to my mom as well. How can I be arrested for this violation when she cant prove the allegation? Now I have to fight that too.

I called the police on my girlfriend she was arrested for domestic violence i didnt press charges she was released i recieved a letter from the domestic violence unit 19 days later i wasnt home to recieve it and i didnt make it to the post office in time to pick it up what could that letter be about

My daughter who is 16 was in a relationship with a boy she met at her High School. They were both 14 when they met and started a relationship that became sexual by the time they were both 15. She hid most of it from us. About a year after they started dating, her dad and I came across evidence on her phone that he was abusing her. Long story short, it got worse to where we went to court and she was granted a restraining order for 18 months. They have lots of mutual friends and we hear about him. Recently he was put into juvenile hall for assault with a deadly weapon unrelated to my daughter’s restraining. Do we have the right to know when he is released and his whereabouts? We feel so nervous and scared that he might just turn up when we least expect it.

elderly father with dementia threatens to beat disabled ill daughter to death & keeps threatening to throw her out of the house. constant verbal, emotional abuse, terror, & constant hostilities at home. hopeless, dispaired. Death is only escape? I am very isolated. No friends. No money. Disabled. Ill. Can’t stand or walk very much. I am sick of life long systematic mental abuse. Now unbearable because I cannot live in this beaten down broken mentally & emotionally disabled from systematic mental torture all my life long. God. Save me.

My husband & I had gotten into a financial argument in his car. He pulled over & told me to get the fuck out of his car. I got out took the 2 mile walk home. I made it safely back home. Now he can’t even look me in the face. Is this abuse? Is he “trying” to be remorseful?

can I kick out of my house my son of 19 if he hits me, doesn’t comply with house rules, breaks things around the house

I have a friend who needs help with filing for his divorce, he is ex navy seal with many health issues and has been dealing with his ex-wife who has frozen his bank accounts , locked him out of his face book account. He has suffered enough, the harassment and mental abuse is too much for him he needs some real help. Is this a place he may come to for help?

My ex boyfriend and I would occasionally socially do drugs. One day he wanted to go the beach with our friends and do LSD. I refrained from doing the drug even though he tried to persuade me to join his trip. After sunset at the beach things went terribly wrong. he sped off and started talking crazily. He made me start driving after stopping the car in the middle of the road. He threw our phones out the window, thus loosing directions and causing us to end up on a deserted dark road. Where he dragged me out of the car and as I attempted to flee he tackled me and punched me. He ran away and the cops found him. where he was then baker acted. His parents sent him off to rehab where he calls me begging for a second chance. He swears something took over his body and that he would never ever hurt me. He swears he had no control and hardly even remembers. Do drugs really have this much power over someone? Should I believe him? Is he not at complete fault? Should I consider taking him back?

I’m in love with a man who began the mental and emotional abuse when we first got our home together . Got so bad I told him my son and I were leaving . He got angry said so your leaving me hit himself with phone charger had me arrested but sheriff new and the DA said not picking this charge up. Tossed out court. I did get a CPO grated then 5 year restraining order. He still contacted. After 6 months he never stopped harassing me threatening my job then one day everything change. Said he’s getting help wants us to go to consoling and I let him back got order dropped and the court rep. It’s not just emotional, and mental it gets physical bad. I went into work with a messed up face arms all be used up and he’s grabbed me by my throat just 2 weeks ago he had his hands choking me I could breath was barley hitting his chest and almost passed out. When released I gasp for air. I LOVE THE SOBER MAN I FELL IN LOVE WITH NOT THIS ONE HELP BECAUSE I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO [edited for length]. 

My aunt lives in Mexico with her husband and she isn’t allowed to go out nor come and visit the family ; she is expected to stay home cook for the husbands mom and clean and she isn’t allowed to work . Years back he had laid hands on her . She ended pretty badly. She went back because of the children . She got kicked out the house today and she wasn’t allowed to take anything and had to leave without her children . She’s really scared and frankly I am too. What should we do?

My boyfriend has pushed me twice now to the floor while we were both drinking and fighting, I know I can be really mean while intoxicated and he has been under a lot of financial pressure (that’s why we are fighting) and the next day he doesn’t even talk to me about it or try to apologize or anything. I am concerned that it has happened 2 times and it might happen again or if I break up with him he might snap even worse. What should I do. How can I talk to him about this?

My 24 year old son has been arrested for domestic battery and endangering the welfare of a child. His daughter is 2. Evidently he was drunk on tequila and Lord only knows what else. The little girl is black and blue on her legs, bumps on her head and bruise on her nose.
He has been in trouble with the law. Unemployed.
I don’t want to turn my back on him but his behavior has reached a new low.
Should I hire him a lawyer? Do I accept his calls from jail?
My wife is very mad with me as she thinks I should cut him out of our life forever.
I am sick all the way around and don’t know what I should do?

Where to get help post divorce 4/14/15, where I was abused and continue to be abused, by my X-husband, and our family courts in El Dorado County, California. I am 70 years old, lost everything except my homeowners exemption, working as nurse for 50 years, through garnishment must pay my X, $2200.00 monthly till he dies, plus $140,000.00 more. I have worked my whole life and helped others. My X-Husband had nothing and took everything from me – over $1 million. I was only married to him for 11 years-no children together. There was a trial due to his undisclosed assets-he never disclosed.  There were court documents that went missing, delays in court processing, talk of judges and attorneys being paid off. This is a travesty of justice. My X-husband has committed fraud, forgery, perjury, divorce trial in Superior Courts, El Dorado County, California, and no one cares [edited for length]. 

I’m interested in receiving counseling from Weave but curious about how you typically conduct your counseling sessions? is it typically in group therapy settings or is there also one-on-one counseling available?

I’m afraid to leave my husband because I think he will try to pull the while suicide stunt again or start throwing things. How do I leave?

My wife was grabbed by arm and thrown down by neighbor whom was drunk and also slung childs riding toy at our heads. Intent to harm or worse. All the way to Chief. Did Nothing. Approx. 9 months later I accidently touched neighbors fence and Sheriff’s deputy shoved my wife by her breasts for trying to talk. The next day I was arrested on $3000 dollar bond. Neighbors continue to harass me and my family going on over 4 years. Seeking contingency Civil Lawyer. I want Justice, compensation, charges filed against everyone involved. Same Commissioner saw my wifes bruised arm. Need a Lawyer. Have very little money. A lot of documents, reports and pics. [edited for content].

I have been abuse mentally and verbally abused. After 33 yrs of marriage my husband is using my Mental Afflictions to bring charges against me. I broke down and socked him. I was arrested, never been in trouble. After release I called WEAVE immediately and was told “You are the abuser we cannot help you. I had no place to go. I was told because he did not batter me physically I have no rights. I cannot comprehend the fact that an individual can abuse you mentally but because no hands were put on me, I have no rights. I have no record, I’m female, 70 yrs old with many ailments and now this man will once again wIll walk away. He is an abuser. Was found guilty in 1986 for child abuse and also was abusive to his first wife. I’m lost, I’m scared and I’m repressed by a Public Defender and to this date, months, he has returned only two calls and no other communication to this point. I have pre-trial on January 24th, court on March 5th and 6th. I feel I’m going to be chastised without any facts. Please help and Thank You.

I got out of a toxic relationship two years ago and finally opened up to dating again. 
Long story short I gave the manchild my key we are no longer dating and he refuses to give it back. 
Aside from this triggering my trauma I really would like to know what measures I could take to protect myself and have him pay the consequences but I don’t know how or what to do and would hate to have to change my locks 
Any advice greatly appreciated

If I die(left abusive 20 year marriage 3 months ago) even though we are still married, can I have my sister handle my affairs?