| Son 8 at time was raped by then 12 yo male cousin.We see kid all the time,where to get son counseling?just found out he's 14 now | This must be very difficult for your son. A first step is contacting WEAVE's 24 hour Support & Information Line at 916.920.2952. The counselor can provide you with resources and options. |
| IF i was continuously touched in my sleep by my babys dad when i been telling him over and over not to do it, is that rape | Sexual assault is any unwanted sexual contact to which you did not consent. If you are questioning these actions, you may want to get more information and support by calling WEAVE's 24 hour Support & Information Line at 916.920.2952. |
| I believe that my 3 year old grandaughter has been sexually abused or has witnessed something . Who do I contact besides cps? | If you suspect a child is the victim of sexual abuse, Child Protective Services is the appropriate entity to contact. Once a report has been made, CPS staff will respond within their guidelines. |
| i was sexually assaulted by father at 16 how do i start to forgive him | Healing from sexual abuse is different for everyone. Many survivors find that working with a counselor can help them develop coping skills. Calling our 24 hour Support & Information Line is a great first step - 916.920.2952. A trained advocate can provide support and give you referrals to therapists who specialize in childhood abuse. |
| My ex-husband forced me to have sex with him while we were married 5 years ago, Can I press charges and how? | Sexual assault is a traumatic experience and is never acceptable. The statute of limitations vary on a variety of factors. You can call our 24 hour Support and Information Line at 916.920.2952 to talk with an advocate who can give you more information and referrals to law enforcement or legal resources that can provide you with details specific to your situation. |
| I was raped 5 months ago.I don't know where to start to recover and gain control of my life again. | WEAVE offers free counseling to survivors of sexual assault. You can access counseling through our triage services. Triage is available, on a first come, first served basis on Tuesdays and Thursdays from 10 am - 1 pm and Wednesdays from 4 pm - 7 pm at 1900 K Street. For additional resources and emotional support you may call WEAVE's 24 hour Support and Information line at 916.920.2952. |
| I was sexually assaulted (not raped) at 13. He was 13-15 at the time. what does this legally count as? | It was not okay for you to be taken advantage of. In the state of California, Unlawful Sexual Intercourse, commonly known at Statutory Rape, states the minimum age someone must be to have sex is 18. People below this age are considered children and cannot legally agree to have sex. WEAVE offers counseling for survivors of sexual assault. For more information call WEAVE's 24 hour Support and Information Line at 916.920.2952. |
| I am in need of sexual assault counseling, but I work out of town and am not able to make it to the triage times. What can I do? | WEAVE offers triage on Wednesdays from 4pm to 7pm to meet the needs of individuals working until 5pm. If that does not work for you then WEAVE can offer you referrals to other agencies who may offer counseling at later times. For referrals call WEAVE's 24 hour Support and Information line at 916.920.2952. |
| My niece was raped and beaten this last April. She is now very provacative. How do get her to understand she needs help? | Rape is a traumatic experience to which there is no single "right" way to respond. It is important that your niece know that support is available to her. She can call WEAVE's 24 hour Support & Information at 916.920.2952 anytime to receive support and learn more about our services. WEAVE can also offer her counseling when she is ready. While it may be frustrating for you and those around her, your niece knows best when she is ready to seek additional assistance in dealing with the assault. It is important she knows there are people around her who care about her and support her. WEAVE's 24 hour Support & Information Line is also available to you as a concerned family member. You, too, can call it at anytime to talk with a trained counselor about how best to support your niece.
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| Was gang-raped 15 years ago, got a ton of counseling, live a happy life, but still terrified of the dark. Will it ever change? | The feelings of fear may or may not totally go away, however, it is most common that they will diminish greatly. Sometimes anniversaries and life events can re-trigger memories and symptoms. If this is continues to be bothering you, perhaps it is time to check back in with a qualified therapist. You may call WEAVE's 24 hour Support and Information line for emotional support and referrals.
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| how do i know if i was raped? | Sexual assault is not only rape; it is also any unwanted sexual activity. Even if you have said “yes” to sex with the person before, or you are in a relationship, no one has the right to have sex with you or pressure you into doing things you do not want to do. Any time you do not say “yes” to a sex act, it is sexual assault.
For emotional support and resources call WEAVE's 24 hour Support and Information line at 916.920.2952.
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| Need to leave abusive bf i need a place to move to i hav two evictions cant find a place to help.but hav a job.and the money. | The WEAVE Safehouse may be an option for you. To access WEAVE services and/or for referrals call WEAVE's 24 hour Support and Information line at 916.920.2952. |
| How old do the parties have to be for sexual assualt/rape to be considerd.Specificly,17 yr old male & 15 yr female? | In the state of California, Unlawful Sexual Intercourse, commonly known at Statutory Rape, states the minimum age someone must be to have sex is 18. People below this age are considered children and cannot legally agree to have sex. There is no age limitation for rape/sexual assault. is not only rape; it is also any unwanted sexual activity. Even if you have said "yes" to sex with the person before, or you are in a relationship, no one has the right to have sex with you or pressure you into doing things you don't want to do. Any time you do not say "yes" to a sexual act, it is sexual assault.
If you have been sexually assaulted it is very important that you seek medical attention as soon as possible for several reasons:
-To treat any injuries.
-To check for possible pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.
-To collect evidence for a criminal case.
For emotional support and resources call WEAVE's 24 hour Support and Information line at 916.920.2952. |
| how important is it to tell someone if you were raped? even if it happened a long time ago. | It is an empowering decision to decide to tell someone about a sexual assault. It is an important factor in what makes you who you are now and the experiences you've had. If you find you are having difficulties in your relationships (romantic or otherwise) due to your sexual assault, it might be liberating to tell others about it and share your story. Telling someone about the sexual assault may assist you in your healing process. For emotional support call WEAVE's 24 hour Support and Information Line at 916.920.2952. |
| My daughter says she was raped 10 years ago at age 9 by an older boy at a friends house. Do you have help for something that old | Your daughter may be experiencing post traumatic stress disorder. This is very common with sexual assault survivors. WEAVE provides counseling and support services for survivors of sexual assault. Please have your daughter call WEAVE's 24 hour Support and Information line at 916.920.2952 to access counseling services. |
| I was sexaul Assault by my brother-in-law three different times. We are a close family so I see him all the time. what can i do | Surviving sexual assault is a challenging journey. When you have been assaulted by someone you know and must continue to see, it can make the journey even more difficult. WEAVE's 24 hour Support and Information Line is always available to offer you support and insight. The number is 916.920.2952. You may also want to schedule an initial meeting with a WEAVE Counselor to determine if individual or group counseling may be beneficial to you. WEAVE's counselors understand the challenges every survivor faces and are here to help with understanding the many emotions you may feel and to help you stay safe while working through the many emotions you feel. You can request information about the counseling process by calling the Support and Information Line. WEAVE is here to support you in whatever way you feel is best at this time and will remain here for you if your needs change in the future. |
| What should I do since my case was dropped without my okay with it? | It appears that your case may be a criminal case; however WEAVE would need more details. If it is a criminal case call the DA's office at 916.876.6171. If this is a family law or domestic violence restraining order case call WEAVE's Legal Department at 916.319.4905. For Support and Information about WEAVE services and your situation call 916.920.2952. |
| i was drugged and now im so confused can you really help me. i cant go to the police can i get help without having to make repor | Whether or not you report the assault to law enforcement, it is important to get checked out medically for any injuries, pregnancy, or sexually transmitted diseases. WEAVE Advocates are available to you on the 24-Hour Support and Information Line for support and will not judge you. An Advocate can provide you with options and emotional support. The Support and Information Line is 916.920.2952.
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| i was 18, he was 16 and sexually assaulted me- he's my brother, what can i do? | You are not alone. WEAVE offers counseling services that may help you during this difficult time. To receive counseling services and for support call WEAVE's 24 hour Support and Information line at 916.920.2952. |
| My son-in-law sexually assaulted me 4 times in 2 years. I finally told my daughter and she doesn't believe me. What do i do? | It is important to know that the assault was not your fault and to make sure you are creating a support system for yourself. Unfortunately, your daughter may not be capable of being part of that support system at this time. It is common for family members to be in disbelief when they know the perpetrator. WEAVE offers services to help you in creating the support system. When you are ready, WEAVE can offer counseling that can help you build coming skills and provide support for healing. You also have access to WEAVE's 24 hour crisis line by calling 916.920.2952. You are not alone and WEAVE is here to help.
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| Every Sunday my husband wants sex. He does what he wants to my body. I stay silent. I don't want to. Is this sexual abuse? | If your partner minimizes the importance of your feelings about sex and/or forces you to perform unwanted sex acts this is considered sexual abuse. You deserve to be in a relationship where your feelings and wants are respected. Love should not hurt. WEAVE offers an Educational Workshop about domestic violence, sexual assault and WEAVE's crisis intervention and counseling services on Mondays from 5:45-7:30 PM and Fridays from 11:45 AM- 1:30 PM. For support and more information please call the 24 Crisis Line at 916.920.2952. |
| I know a student has been sexully assaulted on a high school campus. The school has yet to notify parents of this situation. | Sexual assaults on campus are frightening for students and parents alike. School policy will dictate how and when parents are notified. If you know the student who was the victim of the assault, please encourage her to seek support to deal with the impact of the assault. WEAVE's 24 hour crisis line is available to the student, her family and friends by calling 916.920.2952.
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| It's been 20 years since I was raped. I have to deal with it. Can you help? | It is good you are seeking help. Surviving a rape - regardless of how long ago - is a process and WEAVE is here to help. WEAVE offers counseling services to survivors of sexual assault. You can learn more about the counseling options and request a counseling appointment by contacting our 24 hour Crisis & Information Line at 916.920.2952. The 24 hour Crisis Line is also a support system for you to use anytime you need to talk about the assault and its impact on your life. |
| im a victim of a recent gang sexual assult.Im being threatend by them.Cops arent helping.I have no money to move away.Help??? | You are not a alone and WEAVE is here to help. WEAVE offers many services that can assist you. You may contact WEAVE’s Crisis Line at 916.920.2952 to obtain information about Victim Witness and about our services. A Crisis Line Counselor will be able to provide emotional support and referrals. |
| a man 26 years older than me pressured me to be on the phone while he played with himself i feel violated was i? | You have every right to feel violated. It is a form of sexual assault if he is forcing you to do something without your consent. Please call WEAVE's Crisis Line at 916.920.2952 for support and more information about WEAVE services.
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| I told him I didn't want sex at the beginning of the night, but he kept on pushing; I gave in the next morning. Is it assault? | It is sexual assault when you tell him once that you do not want to have sex. At that point, he is required by law to immediately stop what he is doing. Submission does not mean consent. For more support and information, you may call WEAVE's Crisis Line at 916.920.2952.
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| 45 yr old male molested a 2 yr old 33 yrs ago when he was 12 years old.Minor is an adult now,No current child danger.Reportable? | The incident is not reportable to Child Protective Services because the survivor is over the age of 18. You may contact law enforcement and they will let you know if they can make an incident report. You may contact WEAVE's Crisis Line at 916.920.2952 for more information and support.
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| A friend of mine was raped is this the best place for her to seek help? | First let your friend know the rape is not their fault and that they are not alone. WEAVE offers individual counseling for sexual assault survivors. Your friend may talk with a triage counselor on the Crisis Line to decide what programs and options are best for them. WEAVE's Crisis Line is 916.920.2952. |
| I have a girl that has told me she has been sex. assaulted, but won't tell. She doesnt want parents to know. Guy has threatened | If you believe this child has been sexually abused, please report it to the authorities so that she may receive help and support. Threats by abusers are common and she can be reassured that she will be protected. |
| What could be done for a 19 year old young lady, who lives at home, and has been assaulted by the father she still lives at home | The survivor may contact law enforcement about the assault. She may also contact the Crisis Line at 916.920.2952 for support and shelter referrals. The Crisis Line will be able to provide information about our Temporary Restraining Order Workshop as well. |
| I think I'm a victim of non-contact molestation, does this count as actually being molested? | I encourage you to call the Crisis Line at (916) 920-2952 to discuss your situation in more detail. A counselor will be able to provide emotional support and give you resources and referrals. |
| Can sexually assaulted males get help from weave too? | WEAVE have services such as counseling and advocacy for males. Please call the Crisis Line at (916) 920-2952 for more information on obtaining those services. |
| I was referred here in hopes of pressing charges, but its been about twenty years since my molestation. what are my options? | You can contact law enforcement and they will let you know if you can make a report. Although WEAVE does not offer counseling for molestation, we have referrals for agencies that specialize in molestation. Please feel free to call our Crisis Line at (916) 920-2952 for more referrals and emotional support. |
| Is it a sexual assult when a 16yo has oral/anel sex with 18yo? The 16yo is now being humiliated by him, can she get help? | It is sexual assault when a 16 year old has oral and anal sex with a 18 year old. In California, nobody under the age of 18 can consent to sex. WEAVE offers sexual assault counseling to survivors of 13+ years. If the perpetrator is harassing the 16 year old, WEAVE can help with filing for a Temporary Restraining Order. Please call the Crisis Line at 916.920.2952 for more information on how to receive our services and to explore other options. |
| Im 16 I have been sexually assulted numerous times by friends and cousins? Why does it always happen, and how can I avoid it? | We are so sorry to hear you have been a victim of numerous acts of sexual assault. Nothing you did caused the assaults to happen. The only reason why you were assaulted was because your friends and cousins are perpetrators. Therefore, they are the only ones who could stop it. You do have several options of what you could do now. You can contact law enforcement and make reports of the incidents since what they did to you is a crime. And, you could get into counseling to help you process everything. You might want to contact our 24-Hour Crisis Line at 916.920.2952 to talk about your situation and receive support and guidance. |
| HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH ASKING FOR HELP WHEN YOU ARE SO ASHAMED TO HAVE BEEN ABUSED IN THE FIRST PLACE? | Shame is a common feeling among people who have been abused and it's sometimes helpful to know that you are definitely not alone in being abused and your feelings that come with it. A good first step would be to call our 24-Hour Crisis Line at 916.920.2952. There, you could be anonymous and everything you say would be confidential, but you could still express your feelings and receive the support that you need while going over your options. |
| I'M TRYING TO FIND A SUPPORT GROUP FOR SEXUAL ASSAULT SURVIVORS BUT I'M HITTING BRICK WALLS EVERYWHERE I LOOK; ANY HELP AT ALL? | We are sorry to hear the search has been stressful. WEAVE does have support groups for sexual assault survivors which might be what you are looking for. For more information, please call our 24-Hour Crisis Line at 916.920.2952. |
| I was sexually abused as a child. Last Sunday I was assaulted and almost raped. I feel like I am to blame. Can you help? | No one asks to be assaulted or sexually abused which is why none of this is your fault. The only ones to blame are the perpetrators because they were the ones to do this to you. WEAVE offers sexual assault counseling services which can help you in regard to your recent assault. We can also give you referrals to other counseling agencies that can help you with your past sexual abuse as a child. Please call our 24-Hour Crisis Line at 916.920.2952 for more information and to receive support while having someone to talk to. |
| No memory of "falling asleep" on date, woke up very groggy, sore, and with slightly bruised thighs. Could I have been raped? | Yes, it is possible that you have been raped. Some things that you could do now are go to the hospital to get checked out, go to law enforcement, or get into counseling. A good first step would be to contact our 24-Hour Crisis Line at 916.920.2952 and speak with one of our Crisis Line Counselors about what you went through and what you are feeling right now and they can give you options, depending on what you want to do. |
| perpetrator of sexual crime soon released from prison. i as the survivor would like to relocate. what help can i recieve | Our 24-Hour Crisis Line at 916.920.2952 can give you some referrals that can possibly help you relocate. Please call for more information and for support during this difficult time. |
| My ex b/f hurt in a some sexual ways and always hit me i keep having dreams of it and feel like i am reliving it what can i do? | The process for healing from trauma is different for each individual, and the way the mind and body responds to the past trauma is just as varied. One way to heal from a traumatic experience is by talking to a trained counselor. WEAVE provides both individual and group counseling that may help you with the healing process. By contacting WEAVE’s 24-Hour Crisis Line at 916.920.2952 you can continue the healing process and learn more about the many services we offer. |
| My husband has sexually assaulted me on several occassions. I am so confused. What do I do? | You have many choices that you can explore on the Crisis Line. From reporting the abuse to law enforcement, receiving in-person counseling at WEAVE, or talking anonymously to a counselor on the Crisis Line. After talking with a Crisis Line counselor you may choose any and all of the choices to assist you with the healing process and increase your safety. To learn about your choices, please speak to a trained counselor at our 24-Hour Crisis Line at 916.920.2952. |
| My husband is verbally/mentally/sexually abusive. I'm in counseling he is not until next week. What are my options? | WEAVE offers many services that can assist you, including in-person counseling, legal assistance, and a Safehouse where you could stay up to 45 days. To explore which of the many services best meet your current needs, please talk with one of our counselors at our 24-Hour Crisis Line at 916.920.2952.
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| I was molested as a child & would like to help others in the same situation. Can you tell me where to get started? | A powerful way to turn a traumatic event in one’s life into something positive, after the healing process has occurred, is to help others that have experienced similar trauma. WEAVE does not provide services for those healing from childhood molestation, but we do refer callers to other local agencies. Please contact our 24-Hour Crisis Line to receive the name and phone numbers of those agencies at 916.920.2952. |
| My husband is verbally/mentally abusive. I do not want to have sex but he yells at me and throws things. What do you suggest? | You have already taken a very important first step, identifying your husband's actions as abuse. The next step would be to consider if you want to make changes to have a relationship without abuse. Both you and your husband can choose to make changes if you are both willing. We strongly suggest that couples that have domestic violence issues not attend couples counseling for safety reasons. To learn more about the many services WEAVE can offer you, please contact our 24-Hour Crisis Line at 916.920.2952. There are services available to help your husband learn to not be abusive that we can refer him to. While your husband receives assistance, you could receive support from WEAVE's counseling. |
| My ex forced me to have sex May 15, 2006. He's always been verbally/emotionally abusive. I was violated. Can I still report it? | The statute of limitations on reporting an assault varies, but usually is more than just a few years. Spousal rape is a crime, and based on a variety of factors, can be punishable with incarceration. There are both legal and emotional benefits to making a report to the proper law enforcement agency. If you choose to report or not please contact our counselors at 916.920.2952 to discuss your options and receive support. In-person counseling services would always be available to you, no matter how long ago the assault took place. |
| How can I get over what happened to me? | You may find that friends and family expect that you should be ready to move on with your life as soon as they are ready to stop thinking about it. Those who understand sexual assault know that the trauma is not a simple thing to recover from. Being assaulted affects everyone differently, and everyone recovers at his or her own pace. Most people who are assaulted experience symptoms of Rape Trauma Syndrome and, although symptoms do get better over time, it is very normal to continue to think about and deal with the assault long after it happened. Getting counseling can provide you with a safe person to talk to and skills to cope with your feelings and reactions. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself to react or feel a certain way. There is no time period or deadline when you should "get over it". Healing from such a violation is a complicated and individual process. Take as long as you need to let yourself heal. |
