| My uncle is a drug user and he is stressing me out what should I do | We can help you by offering you referrals for both your uncle and yourself. To talk about your situation in more detail while receiving support and getting appropriate referrals, you can call our 24-Hour Crisis Line at 916.920.2952. You may also want to try calling the California Youth Crisis Line at 800.843.5200. |
| if his friends are pressuring him to go farther (sexually), does that count as abuse to HIM? | Based on limited information from the question, it sounds like his "friends" are pressuring him to do something that he is not comfortable in doing. Peer-pressure can be both painful and dangerous to the recipient. Depending on the situation, the peer-pressure could rise to a level that would be considered abuse. Even if the friends are not being abusive, at a minimum, exploring the value of "friends" that do not respect personal boundaries is a good conversation to have with a counselor at WEAVE's 24-Hour Crisis Line. |
| Is there any way to speed up the process of getting an abusive, stalking ex-boyfriend arrested? | Local law enforcement often does a great job helping survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. Allowing the process to work takes both time and patience. If you feel law enforcement is not responding appropriately to the circumstances, one option that you have is to talk to those higher in the chain of command. If you are able to express specific concerns with details, the information could both help you with your situation, and other survivors that may experience a similar situation in the future. It is important to remain safe while waiting for your ex-boyfriend to be arrested. To talk to a counselor at our 24-Hour Crisis Line to explore other options call 916.920.2952. |
| I get mad easily so does he. He talks about other girls, makes me cry and I start hitting him first but then he strangles me. | Relationships that contain multiple forms of abuse can feel confusing. Many abusers blame the victim for their behavior and call them abusive. You can look at who is initiating the abuse and if it is to gain power and control over the other person. Reactive anger is often associated with being abused. You may be assisted in understanding the dynamics of your relationship better by talking to a Crisis Line counselor at 916.920.2952. |
| Sometimes when my boyfriend gets angry he slaps me(not to hurt), and pulls my hair, is this abuse? | WEAVE identifies five types of domestic violence. All types of abuse are done for the purpose of gaining power and control over the victim. The types of abuse are different but are often inflicted upon a victim in various combinations. One type is physical abuse, it is the use of physical force against another person in a way that ends up injuring the person, or puts the person at risk of being injured. Even if a slap or pulling of hair doesn’t hurt, it is not the level of pain inflicted that defines if the action is abuse. It is the reason and intent of the person doing the action, and damage done to the recipient of the action, that helps to define if the action is abuse. By talking with a counselor on our 24-Hour Crisis Line you would be able to explore in more detail both the dynamics of your relationship and about WEAVE's services. The Crisis Line number is 916.920.2952. |
| How common is dating violence for teens? | A study of high school students found that 1 in 5 had experienced physical or sexual dating violence. |
| Why do people yell and hit to show how much they care about their partners? | It is a myth that people yell and hit to show how much they care about their partners.
In Reality, people yell and hit because they are using violence to try and control another person and are unable to control their own behavior. |
