Teen Dating Violence

Dating Violence is the act or threat of an act of violence by at least one member of an unmarried couple on the other member within the context of dating. This violence includes any form of sexual assault, physical assault, and verbal or emotional abuse.

Statistics 

• A study of high school students found that 1 in 5 had experienced physical or sexual dating violence. (American Medical Association, 2001)
• Girls experiencing dating violence were 5 times more likely to become pregnant, and 9 times more likely to have attempted suicide in the previous year than non-abused peers. (American Medical Association, 2001)
• In a national survey of teens and their parents, 25% of the teens surveyed reported knowing at least 1 person who had been physically struck by the person they were dating, while only 8% of the parents reported knowing at least 1 teen who had experienced such abuse. (California Coalition Against Sexual Assault, 2003)
• A survey of teens showed that of those physically or sexually abused by a partner, 3% reported to an authority figure, 6% told a family member, 61% told a friend and 30% told no one. (California Coalition Against Sexual Assault, 2003)
• 1 in 3 teen relationships are violent. (Center for Domestic Violence Prevention)
• Dating violence affects the same number of people regardless of race, class, gender, religion, sexual orientation, etc. (Center for Domestic Violence Prevention)
  

Myth Abuse in a teen relationship is not that common or serious.
Reality A study of high school students found that 1 in 5 had experienced physical or sexual dating violence. Abuse is not just an adult problem.

Myth People who abuse are crazy.
Reality Abusers are "normal" people that we encounter in everyday life. They can be the smartest, quietest, coolest, or the best athlete on campus. You cannot recognize abusers by how they look or act in public, but by how they behave in a relationship over a period of time.

Myth People yell and hit to show how much they care about their partners.
Reality People yell and hit because they are using violence to try and control another person and are unable to control their own behavior.

If you or a friend is experiencing dating violence below are services that WEAVE offers. All services can be accessed by calling the 24-Hour Crisis Line.

Counseling Group and individual counseling covers topics such as healthy relationships vs. abusive relationships, the impact of media messages on teens, and assertive communication. For teens 14 and older parent permission is not required, but preferred.

WEAVE also offers counseling to teens who have witnessed domestic/dating violence in their home.

Legal Assistance Temporary Restraining Order (TRO) Workshops and assistance with child custody issues are available to teens.